-Plenty of Fish is making me choose between sapiophile, intellectual, music snob, and free-thinker. How does one sleep at night with these decisions? ;)
I am basically interested in someone with whom I share a mental and emotional connection as well as great chemistry; a best friend, someone who complements me. Some words that describe me: feminine, warm, confident, affectionate, sensitive, selective, ethical, inquisitive, loyal and honest. I am both romantic and practical. I am creative, yet logical and analytical. I am an animal lover and, in particular, a dog person. It is difficult to describe my personality on paper, but I guess I am a little bit girl-next-door, with a splash of sass and spunk thrown in for fun. :-) While I enjoy deep conversation, I also have a spontaneous, playful side. I smile and laugh regularly, and appreciate this quality in a partner. :)
I don't feel like I fit the mold of what seems to have become the typical American lifestyle. I don't ravenously drink beer and watch obscene amounts of sports (or much TV in general). I don't smoke pot, nor compulsively text all day/night. I have no interest in dumbing myself down for the sake of conformity, and like to use my brain. I care more about current events than celebrity gossip. I refrain from dropping f-bombs in every other sentence, don't have tattoos or plastic surgery, nor do I plan to. I'll always choose great style over following trends, which are not necessarily synonymous in my book. I care about my health and eat real food. My philosophy is to age gracefully, not speed up the process.
I am madly passionate about dance and music. Musically, I enjoy a wide variety, and am strongly partial to the minor key. I have an ongoing love affair with harmony, and we aren't breaking up anytime soon. I appreciate something from most every genre of music outside of modern rap, heavy metal, or anything with demeaning or offensive lyrics. I dislike angry, toxic noise, or any type of music that kills plants. In general, I try to fill my life with beauty and avoid toxicity whenever possible. Basically, I believe the point of music should be to make us feel something. I'm a huge classic movie buff, and love anything with Rita Hayworth, Marilyn Monroe and Ingrid Bergman. Old Hollywood had class. Not sure what happened.
In addition to music and dancing, I also enjoy walks, nature, road trips, and shopping (I am a girl). I love the sound and scent of rain, and the intrigue and mystery of fog. Being a romantic at heart, I believe in the lost art of a gradual courtship, as opposed to random, sloppy Neanderthal hook-ups, which sadly seem the "dating" norm these days. I care and have opinions about important issues happening around the world. Natural health is also an interest of mine, and a part of my own lifestyle.
In some ways I am traditional, but I am also an independent thinker and somewhat of an individualist. Being a critical thinker, I don't necessarily follow the mainstream media, nor do things just because everyone else is doing them. My integrity is important to me. While my disposition is friendly and warm, I am also reasonably selective with the people whom I choose to surround myself with and become close to. My word is golden; I do not believe in flaking on people, and am not flighty.
I am interested in dating a quality man who is intelligent, witty, articulate, loyal, affectionate, and sensitive. I would prefer that we share some similar values and interests, including a reasonably healthy (cigarette/pot/drug-free) lifestyle. Sexy to me is an attractive man who is also caring, protective and genuine. I am not interested in apathy, flakiness, arrogance, nor players. Humility and gratitude wins far points with me than do bad boys, who are highly unappealing. Some sense of class and moral fiber is essential. Physically, I am attracted to someone who has a healthy build, down-to-earth attitude and values, and respect for animals and people. An appreciation for the arts, and some general knowledge and opinions about what is happening politically in our world is essential. If you are a critical thinker and possibly appreciate Ron Paul, Ralph Nader, Dennis Kucinich, Jill Stein, or Gary Johnson, we should get along just fine. :)
*Extra special brownie points if you are musically inclined.*
Albeit obvious, given what's sadly out there today, I should add that I appreciate a man who is a gentleman - opens doors for his date, refrains from dropping f-bombs every 5th word, offers to walk her to her car at night, etc...basically is courteous, respectful and protective.
One caveat: I have yet to swoon over a man wearing skinny jeans, especially when they are falling off. ;)
In terms of the first date, I'll leave that up to the man who might invite me. In terms of future dates and things I enjoy, I am equally as comfortable and confident dressing up for a sophisticated evening out at the symphony, art museum event, or intellectual conversation over a nice dinner, as I am a casual, fun night of salsa dancing, singing karaoke, or enjoying gelato.
To me, ultimately, the two most important qualities in a fulfilling, long-term partnership are mutual respect and chemistry. Chemistry is not solely based on physical appeal; it involves mutual laughing, sharing, smiling, flirting, touching, eye contact, connecting, lightness, intensity, nonverbal communication, "getting" each other, and improvising life's unexpected situations together.