Obviously, all the leaves AREN'T brown, but it's officially Autumn now, and I like that song...lol.
With the new season comes some reflections by me, and they aren't good ones. First of all, when I got back on POF earlier this year, after a two and-a-half year absence, I knew it might be difficult to get back in the swing of things, but I never imagined it would be as frustrating as it's been. The biggest source of frustration has been the HUGE lack of response to the messages I've sent to women on POF. I've literally only heard back from one out of every three women I've contacted, which means two thirds of the women have IGNORED my messages. I've been told by several women that this is the way it works: if you don't hear back from someone, it means they're not interested. I'm sorry, but when did ignoring someone trying to communicate with you become an accepted practice? It reeks of a lack of common courtesy, if you ask me, especially since I respond to every woman that sends me a message (I think everyone can agree that flirts and meet me's don't count). Then there's the women I did trade messages with that just suddenly disappeared without any rhyme or reason; and even worse, a couple women said they were going to be busy for a week or two, but would get back to me when they had more time, but I never heard back from them again. On refection, not a very enjoyable return to POF, but maybe it's all for the best, because if that's how these women (who claim to be kind and compassionate) treat people, then I'm probably better off without them.
So, the search for "Ms. Perfect For Me" goes on, but now has risen to an even higher level of difficulty than I ever imagined it would be. I've met less women in the eight months I've been back on POF than any other time I was on here, and I don't feel I've changed that much.They say there's someone out there for everybody, but you have to be able to meet a fair amount of people in order to find them. While I thought I'd found "Ms. Perfect For Me"a few times in the past, things just didn't work out, and now I have a better vision of the woman I'd like to spend the rest of my life with. I want a lady I don't have to explain things to...she gets me and I get her, just like it should be. I want a lady I can spoil with affection, sensuality and massages...and she would spoil me too, just like it should be. I want a lady who's down to earth, optimistic and easy to be with...and I'll be the same for her, just like it should be. Of course, I want a lady who has all the other things everyone else is looking for too...cute or pretty, height/weight proportionate, sexy, funny, smart, caring...you know, the one we'd all like to find, just like it should be. When I find her, or she finds me, we'll know it, and our love will become so deep we'll become Soul Mates...just like it should be!
I love music of all types (except opera, polkas, and rap), and go to as many concerts as I can. I like watching Cardinals games, especially when they're in the playoffs, live and on tv. I also like going to wineries, Fast Eddies, The Loading Dock, scenic drives, road trips, tailgating at Mizzou games, movies, The Funny Bone comedy club, nightclubs, etc. I'm kind, easy going, affectionate, love sarcastic banter, open minded, modern thinking, middle-of-the-road politically, pragmatic, honest. I have a 16 year old son at home, but he's at an age where he doesn't want to spend much time with Dad, and he's pretty self sufficient most of the time. While I'd like to live with the right gal eventually, I don't want to get married again. I also actively support the legalization of marijuana, although I doubt that'll ever happen in my lifetime in Missouri.
I like to meet women after a couple emailing sessions, maybe some texting and definitely some talking on the phone. I'm sure we've all emailed, texted and talked on the phone with someone for days or weeks on end, only to feel no connection when you meet. Attraction is a weird and subjective thing and you just can't tell until you meet someone in person, if there's any chemistry or not. I weigh 225 pounds, and I'd like to lose about 25 pounds, so I'm work in progress, and I'll date a woman who's also a work in progress, but don't want to date someone who's bigger than me.
Thanks for reading my profile, and if there's anything else you'd like to know about me, just ask.