** There is a delusion that is running rampant. The delusion being that there is an endless supply of singles at your beck and call - that you can make a selection like you're looking at a Sears catalog. And although when you log in and see that disclaimer that there are countless singles online at that very moment it may seem that way. But once you weed out the fake profiles, the scam artists, the ones that are already married or in a relationship, the crazies, the people who aren't your type or you theirs, the people that don't live in the same country let alone the same state, people that are out of your age range and those that you just don't have a connection with that vast sea of singles starts looking more and more like a mud puddle. Yet people seem to treat other people as if they are dispensable. This makes dating for those of us that are genuinely interested in finding a partner the most frustrating and time consuming chore we have.
So my mom recently met "the man of her dreams" within two months of trying online dating and yet here I still sit on POF...
Upon learning the news of my mother finding her "soul mate" via an online dating website I took some time to reevaluate my own love life. What I realized was that I don't have one but I also came up with a few possible reasons why it happened so fast for her and yet it's not happening at all for me:
Reason # 1. My mom is easy
Now, I highly doubt this is true but I can't rule it out as a possibility.
Reason # 2. I suck at dating...and life...but mainly dating
This seems a little more believable but who am I kidding. I'm delightful.
Reason # 3. You can't truly understand love until you reach the age when the AARP commercials start making sense
Could be. Might take a certain maturity to truly appreciate online dating. Or maybe you just lower your standards as you get older.
Reason # 4. You get what you pay for
This is a free dating site...Need I say more?
Regardless of the reason, here I am in all of my glory...
I'm okay with being single. I'm comfortable with me. I would like to find my better half whoever he may be. If I even have one. I might be one of those people that rock their golden years solo.
Hard work is important to me and I am passionate about what I do. I am a paralegal for a civil rights law firm and I enjoy the work that I do (usually). I also start school in a week after graduating in May because I really like student loan debt and also because I plan to transition into mediation.
I'm not a size two. I never will be.
I'm heavily tattooed. I keep them covered in my professional life and sometimes in my personal life depending on the situation.
I hate profiles with "do & don't" lists but I get why they are necessary. So I'm throwing one in here too!
You should Not Message Me If You:
Are now or ever have been a convicted felon
Think the Tea Party has “good ideas”
Own a confederate flag
Have six months or less out of a serious relationship/marriage
Are a racist/bigot/homophobe
Have a profile picture that is nothing but you and 800 assault rifles – spoiler alert, that kind of thing is scary to most women!
Do not have a driver’s license (exceptions for medical reasons)
Cannot carry on an intelligent conversation
Have ever been diagnosed as a sociopath, psychopath, or any other path I may have overlooked.
You Should Message Me If You:
Have a good sense of humor
Are ready for a relationship
Have all of your teeth
Are hard working
Are not intimidated by strong women
Have your life together
Don’t live online and online only