My friends describe me as articulate, smart, insightful, talkative. Keen ability to see through BS and politely say "hey, there's a smoking pile of it right there." Broad sense of humor. Innovator. Guitarist. Author. Motorcyclist. Idealist. Multilingual. Polite. Insightful listener. Gives very accurate advice. Ex military.
I can uphold my end of just about any conversation. I have conviction about certain subjects, but have no problems admitting when I know nothing about a subject- I divorced my identity from any need to be right about most things quite a long time ago. I believe in treating people as human beings- I know THAT is going to be a turnoff for some, judging by the predisposition most women these days seem to have with bad boys.
If that's what you're looking for, a bad boy, I'm not your guy- get to know me and I'll tell you why. I enjoy a lot of things, so many things that I'm sure we would hit it off. I'll talk with you like you're a person. I'll treat you with respect, provided I am shown the same in return (I'm also capable of ripping people to shreds when they don't treat me with respect, having mastered the "self image destroying zinger" a long, long time ago. However, I usually just walk away and leave the offender to figure out that banishment has occurred, as it's not my place to teach another adult respect).
I'm looking for someone special- an independent and moderately fit woman who has a sense of humor and who wants to be valued for who she is. She likes to spend time out of the home, but is equally happy watching a movie at home or talking about things of import. She values a man for who he is, realizing a man is a worthwhile addition to her life, but not a combination of Mr. Fixit and a walking ATM. She has class and style.
I'm not looking to be "just a friend." This is very important. You see, all too often what that means in the life of a single man is that he becomes a member of her male harem, a bunch of guys she wouldn't consider in a romantic way at all, but prefers to keep them around so that she can use them for emotional support when she needs it, leaving them out of the loop otherwise. All too often, women who do that are liars and cowards, afraid to say "hey, I'm not interested in you romantically. Is it alright with you if we are just friends?" After all, such a thing would indicate she respects him enough to ask his input into an equation whose outcome affects him directly. Since she doesn't respect him at all, that doesn't come into the equation at all because the idea of communicating in an honest, polite, and respectful manner to a man is not something with which she is familiar- call it narcissism, a lack of education, acquired helpless... take your pick. It is the penultimate in disrespect... and it's all too common, friend zoning a guy.
Such a thing is not friendship and I'm not remotely interested in a relationship like that- it's usury of the most irresponsible and selfish kind. I am not interested in having "friends" of such low and despicable character. I have no problems telling such a person to take a hike with a diverse and widely varied collection of colorful metaphors and expletives to get the point across, if necessary- to say I find that kind of behavior offensive- using a guy as an emotional fluffer instead of being honest and respectful from the start- would be a severe understatement of the facts.
I'm looking for someone much better than that- a person of character and integrity who takes care of herself. If this describes you, a high quality person, and you found something here to inspire you, feel free to email me. I'd be interested in knowing you.
Definitely a public place, like a coffee shop. It lets us get to know each other enough to see if a second date is warranted. If it is, it will be something that we'll both like- I ask questions because I'm genuinely interested in you as a person, and it'll be something we'll both enjoy, rather than it being something only I enjoy. I'm decisive and creative, but I'll let you discover that for yourself.