I have been described as a humorous, witty, enlightened, and intelligent nice guy. I work out regularly, am publishing my first book (through an actual publisher, no less).....
There's more, but I'll tell you in person.
I'm looking for a woman who considers herself enlightened. Perhaps she loves practicing yoga, and stays active at the very least. I would hope that, since I'm a Leo, she is a Libra or a Gemini. She values life in all of its forms. She has a sense of humor (if she doesn't, my sense of humor may not be that attractive, since it is diverse- from dry to raunchy). She is secure in herself: she doesn't "need" a man in her life, much like I don't "need" a woman in mine- however, we both realize that having said person in our individual lives is a joyous adjunct to an already happy life.
She, at the very least, likes dogs- I have two, and they were in my life first. I reciprocate- I'm an animal lover. Speaking of this, I'm gravitating toward a predominantly vegan lifestyle, because I respect life in all of its forms. She has goals, as do I. They don't have to be the same goals, naturally (that would be UBER-boring, don't you think?), but we would support each other in our individual dreams and I know I would certainly help her achieve hers as I have the time.
She has a modest BMI- I'm currently diminishing my BMI into something I consider healthier. I'm being PC here, because I believe it is kind of rude to put it another way, but I must be a little forward, here: if you're obese please do not email me. I won't return the email. I think it's a little rude for a person to read a person's profile, only to attempt to "not take no for an answer" and email anyway when asked not to, in advance. I carry some extra weight and am doing something about it because fat grosses me out, even when I'm the one wearing it. It's a part of my psychological makeup- I have attempted to "overcome" it in the past, only to find that it's very much a part of who I am. I am not attracted to obesity, period. I find a person "refusing to take no as an answer" very irritating.
"No is a complete sentence by itself"- Gavin DeBecker, author of "The Gift of Fear." I believe this wholeheartedly. If you are obese (or "thick," or "BBW," or any other synonym used to say obese), the answer, in advance, is a resounding NO. Please respect this- it isn't anything personal.
I'm a stickler for boundaries: I observe them and expect the same in return (yes, this means if you tell me "don't" I won't, and I won't cop an attitude about it). The above paragraph is about boundaries: I have run profiles earlier in my life where I try to be nice about "I don't date obese women," only to have a myriad of emails from women who obviously don't understand the written word. It's annoying. However, boundaries are in all things: I'm looking for a woman who understands this and is ready to enjoy being respected for who she is, without somebody trying to change her or to treat her like a door mat.
It is my hope that the woman in question would find these general ideas attractive (God knows, many don't- they'd rather hope the bad boys who treat them like a combination of whores, trophies, and piggy banks will someday change, and choose to stay with them because of it, disregarding the horrible treatment at the hands of selfish little boys stuck in men's bodies).
Religion: if you subscribe to any organized religion, please understand that I don't. I believe religion is a very personal thing and forcing it onto anybody is a grave error of the highest order. I'm not an atheist, not even an anti-theist. I "am," however, VERY much "anti organized religion." I'll gladly share the reasons for this with you once I get to know you.
So, we've reached the end of this.... "yin/yang" experiment in online dating. If you meet the criteria listed above, I would love to hear from you and I would enjoy sitting down over our favorite beverages and getting to know one another a little bit. If you don't qualify, I wish you the best of success in your search.
A public venue is always a good choice. I'm fond of places like Starbucks (there was this place called "Body" in Santa Fe, New Mexico, that was an awesome place- it was a yoga shop, yoga studio, and vegetarian restaurant all in one. The music and ambience in the place was amazing. Unfortunately, I have no knowledge of a place like that here in the TriCities- hence, Starbucks). From there, we'll see if a second date is worth having. At that point, I know I'll have some ideas on something you might find meaningful.
"Life isn't about the breaths you take- it's about the moments that take your breath away." - George Strait