Greetings. I'm flattered that you have taken the time to read my profile. So as to be respectful of your time, I will put the disclaimers first.
** The pic is now going on three years old. I will update it when I can. I have gained about 30 lbs since the pic, so I am currently a husky man. If you don't like husky men, I suggest that you keep looking. **
** If your screen name contains Diva, Princess, Mistress, or Goddess, I'm probably not the one for you.
** If you don't want to have (more) children, we can be friends, but we have incompatible long term goals.
** If you're too busy to get the initial meeting done within a couple weeks, you're too busy. **
I'm a single, never married man, strong husky build, not bad on the eye, an odd combination of intellectual yet colloquial. I have conservative values in a rather non-traditional way. I know it's late in the game, but I still cling to the hope of finding true love and having a family of my own. I am very honest and trustworthy, and very loyal and faithful. I'm handy and resourceful (been compared to McGuyver many times). Jack of all trades, master of none, but I can get the job done.
I believe that it's not just about me, or what you or I want. It's about all of us, you, me, the kids, the family, the community, and posterity. I believe in doing the right thing because it's the right thing to do, and for no other reason, even if nobody else would ever find out. Your happiness is crucial to my happiness.
I'm comfortable in casual clothes or a 3 piece suit. Fine wine or Coke Zero. Prime rib or hot dogs. Zagat rated or back yard barbecue. I tend to be laid back, but would never embarrass you at a formal night out (and I know how to tie a tie), nor at a family picnic. My personality is a little on the nerdy side, but I'm a strong public speaker. I have a fondness for music, and was a former professional musician (piano, voice, keyboards), though I'm very selective in my musical tastes.
Favorite Quote: "You can easily tell the character of a man by observing how he treats those who can do nothing for him." ~Malcolm Forbes
My preference in a mate tends toward the full figured. If you're wondering about the range of what I mean, if you can get up off the couch without too much help, you're not too big for me. We're going to be together for a long time, and I prefer comfort to speed.
I could describe some ideal scene, but real life first dates usually are a little less smooth and a lot more awkward. I would probably order a dark wine, and then, in my nervousness, spill it all over myself. Then I would notice the nice knit golf shirts that the wait staff was wearing, and tell the server that I wanted to buy one, go in the bathroom, put it on, and come back out looking ok, minus a little dignity. Maybe you would laugh and that would break the ice some. Maybe you would take pity on my nervousness and realize that I was really trying. Perhaps you would be impressed with my resourcefulness. Or possibily, you might end up committing a faux pas of equal measure and we could laugh about it years later. If we can get past the nervousness of a first date, we can probably get past anything.
More recently, given the randomness of the internet age, I think the whole first date concept should be revamped. The feel you get from someone online often has very little to do with the feeling you get from them in person. The upshot of this is that it could be easy to pass up someone based on their online personna when in person one might have found that person quite appealing. On the other hand, particularly for women, the safety question is an ever present issue. Most women therefore tend to pass by all but those who seem too good to resist (which candidates usually end up being proverbially too good to be true as well). The desire for honesty is hampered by the fact that those who are honest usually appear lackluster online compared to those who have no compunction against completely fictionalizing themselves. Suffice to say, those who are dangerous usually fall into this latter category.
Perhaps one way around this is to rethink the first date concept entirely. Historically, first dates followed from people whose first encounter was an in-person meeting. In that light, the first date was not the first meeting. Here, we are forced to shove both of those things into one. The first meeting shouldn't really be a date, it should be a meeting. Real life first meetings are not necessarily one-on-one. She could have been with a group of friends, or at work, or in a public setting. Perhaps new-style first meetings could be the same way. Bring a friend for safety, and perhaps a second opinion. Have the meeting at a gas station or a drive-thru. The first meeting could be such that neither person gets out of their cars. Just anything to get real face time with a minimum of risk. The new paradigm will evolve eventually, but that will take years. For us in the mean time, we just have to be creative.