When "thou canst no longer wear it." -- George Fox, founder of Quakerism, to William Penn, life-long soldier and recent (at the time) convert to Quakerism. Stop me if you've heard this one: Bill goes to George for advice, bummed that as a peace-loving Quaker he really should stop wearing his military sword, but he doesn't feel dressed without it. He has worn it since he was a young man; his daddy wore one, and his daddy's daddy wore one. He feels greatly conflicted and confesses this to George. George's advice: "Continue to wear your sword, until you canst no longer wear it." So Bill put his sword on every day - and then one day, he just didn't, and never wore it again.
I love that story. It reassures me that the time to make a change is when it's time, and not one second before. So don't sweat it.
In Loving Memory of My Mother
May 3, 1925 - November 1, 2016
In Loving Memory of My Country
July 4, 1776 - November 8, 2016
P.P.S.: I am rethinking my comment below about "politically correct". I am realizing we all have to make a change, and give something up, if we are to come together as a nation. There is some truth in every stereotype, though it hurts the target to acknowledge it. I empathize with all people who feel like targets, but we can't let our pet grievances get the better of us. So... I am working hard to understand conservative points of view and find value in them. This may shift my own views more toward center; nothing wrong with that. I have ordered the book "Hillbilly Elegy". If anyone here is reading it and wants to share thoughts, please let me know. Thanks.
P.S.: I believe the term "politically correct" is used by intolerant people to attack those who show respect for others. If you disagree, we would probably not be compatible.