When "thou canst no longer wear it." -- George Fox, founder of Quakerism, to William Penn, life-long soldier and recent (at the time) convert to Quakerism. Stop me if you've heard this one: Bill goes to George for advice, bummed that as a peace-loving Quaker he really should stop wearing his military sword, but he doesn't feel dressed without it. He has worn it since he was a young man; his daddy wore one, and his daddy's daddy wore one. He feels greatly conflicted and confesses this to George. George's advice: "Continue to wear your sword, until you canst no longer wear it." So Bill put his sword on every day - and then one day, he just didn't, and never wore it again.
I love that story. It reassures me that the time to make a change is when it's time, and not one second before. So don't sweat it.
In Loving Memory of My Mother
May 3, 1925 - November 1, 2016
In Loving Memory of My Country
July 4, 1776 - November 8, 2016
P.P.S.: I am rethinking my comment below about "politically correct". I am realizing we all have to make a change, and give something up, if we are to come together as a nation. There is some truth in every stereotype, though it hurts the target to acknowledge it. I empathize with all people who feel like targets, but we can't let our pet grievances get the better of us. So... I am working hard to understand conservative points of view and find value in them. This may shift my own views more toward center; nothing wrong with that. I have ordered the book "Hillbilly Elegy". If anyone here is reading it and wants to share thoughts, please let me know. Thanks.
P.S.: I believe the term "politically correct" is used by intolerant people to attack those who show respect for others. If you disagree, we would probably not be compatible.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
Something casual where we can walk around and talk, maybe browse or window shop somewhere interesting. Just a thought. A bite to eat somewhere would be fine too.