Seriously, fasten your seat belt. Be safe. Don't be a danger to others. Laugh.... a lot. Get out of your head. Pray or meditate daily, depending on what you believe in. Remember, no one else is required to value your belief system. And they probably don't. You're entitled to nothing more than the formation of your own opinions and even then, they shouldn't extend beyond yourself (don't worry, none of us get that right).
OPEN YOUR MIND! If you state anywhere in your profile that you only date white people or black people or tall people or short people GROW UP! If you're a female and half of your profile pictures are you rolling around on the beach in a skimpy bathing suit but in your profile you announce disdain for any guy taking a shirtless selfie, GET REAL! Lastly, if you expect every person that sends you a message to be the Frank Sinatra of messaging, GET OVER YOURSELF. Seriously, nobody and I mean NOBODY deserves a novel from someone who's never met them before. That kind of thing is mutually earned between two people PERIOD
All that said I know people can be disingenuous pigs. Especially men. Believe me, I've been online dating long enough to have heard plenty of stories from a wide variety of females. A lot of people have told me that online dating is a waste of time and unfortunately, as time goes on, I tend to agree. Between the window shoppers, scammers and cons, mock profiles (yes there are most certainly fake profiles here), and the toe dippers it becomes exhausting to weed through the garbage, for allllllllll of us. That's why guys cut and paste ladies! It's a numbers game for all of us. Men can be unimaginative and women can be overly critical. And these characteristics will be amplified within the online forum. So, going back to paragraph two you may want to ask yourself, "why am I on a dating website again"?
Now, that might prompt the reply in question, "well why are you on a dating website Mr smarty pants?" I ask myself frequently and the best I can come up with is my job. I travel for Directv doing commercial QC work and installation design. It keeps me out of the typical social environs. Plus, I don't find myself at the bar or the club much these days. I'm 40, ya know? All my friends are married with kids. It's just not the type of lifestyle that's conducive to meeting single women. And it makes me sad and lonely sometimes :( I'm a Scorpio! I want to give my entire soul to the woman of my dreams. Where is she? I don't know? So the train rolls along...
I'm a genuine, intelligent, sympathetic, imaginative, passionate, loving and talented man. I suppose I'm looking for a woman cut from the same cloth. But I try to keep even my own preferences at bay. And at that, I leave you with this:
Preferences are like goals. We all have to set them but when set in vain they become limitations.