Don’t mind my looks, people say it mysteriously improves without your glasses ;) As creatures with a short expiration date, we need a sense of humor and perspective. I only want to meet kind hearted friends. All else can flow from a foundation of caring and respect.
I believe loving yourself and others are sides of the same coin. Feeling joy requires caring for and loving others (wish there was an easier way! ;) Some are naturally good at it. Some like me, make a conscious effort. It's like going to gym to enjoy the eventual feeling of fitness. So let’s be ‘selfish’ by adopting love as an attitude, and caring for our mother (earth) and fellow passengers.
I like the writings of Erich Fromm (ever heard of him?), eastern thoughts and John Lennon's Imagine. However, I can befriend people with far different views and tastes. The important thing is the content of their character, not the style.
Here’s a bit more of my outlook on life/philosophical BS - my actual BS was in engineering: As physical beings we need nature, but as social beings we need each other. Just as only light can bestow meaning to darkness, we find meaning through our social dance/interaction. To summarize the rambling; we all need one another. We are the universe, falling in love with her own beauty. I know, pretty whacko! ;)