dakemist: There are no real women in nc
About
Smokes Occasionally with Average body type
City
Durham, North Carolina
Details
36 year old Male, 6' 0" (183cm), Non-religious
Ethnicity
Black, Virgo
Intent
dakemist is looking for a relationship.
Education
High school
Personality
Free Thinker
Profession
business owner







I am Seeking a Woman For Long Term
Needs Test View his relationship needs Chemistry View his chemistry results
Do you drink? Prefer Not To Say Do you want children? Prefer Not To Say
Marital Status Single Do you do drugs? No
Hair Color Black Eye Color Brown
Do you have a car? Yes Do you have children? Yes
Longest Relationship Over 10 years How ambitious are you? Ambitious
Pets No Pets  



About shaun


Sistahs seem to have so much going on for themselves; so what could they be lacking? Why is it they may be able to hook a man but neither of them can seem to hold a man? A great multitude of successful, single and seeking African American women today (70%) ponder over this question on a daily basis. They gather at beauty salons, fitness centers, singles retreats, women's blogs and together over a cup of coffee at the office wondering......
"What's wrong with Black men?"
They hold special prayer vigils and fast and pray and beg Jesus to send the Black men back to church. They may occasionally experience some quality Brothas attending Church functions, political rallies, or participating in protests and or other community functions, but when it's time to go home, those quality Brothas all go home to someone else.
After asking over and over again "What's wrong with Black men?" It never ever dawned on many of the above Black women to ask themselves...."What's wrong with us Black women?"What I have found out and what many of today's Black women have yet to discover, is that....
"THE SKILLS AND QUA LIFICATIONSTHAT MAKE A WOMAN VERYSUCCESSFUL IN THE WORKPLACE, IN THE CHURCH AND IN THE COMMUNITYARE NOT THE SAME SKILLS REQUIRED TO MAKE A WOMAN VERY SUCCESSFULIN A RELATIONSHIP OR MARRIAGE!"
"LADIES, PLEASE UNDERSTAND....HIGHER EDUCATION OR A GREAT PAYING JOB "DOES NOT" ENTITLE YOU TO A GOOD MAN, NOR DOES IT ENTITLE YOU TO A "PERFECT" RELATIONSHIP!"
Linear thinking, self-reliance, structured goals and direct actions on getting the job done, whether in organizing the church, promoting social club activities, or placing oneself in a position for a raise or a promotion...."ARE JUST THAT!!"
However, relationsh ip-building requires a whole different set of skills and requirements altogether. It requires making decisions that are NOT only gratify to you, but also making decisions that are very satisfactory to your partner as well. Black women it means thatsometimes you may be required to do the things that will keep the peace rather than achieve the goal. And sometimes it may even require you to take the high-road and create the peace in the first place.
Maintaining a harmonious relationship will NOT always allow you to take the straight and narrow road between two points. Sistahs, sometimes you may have to stoop in order to conquer, or sometimes you may be required to yield in order to win.
The saddest thing regarding many Blackwomen today is that many of them have been mentally conditioned by feminismand mainstream society to embrace a very destructive, anti-man at titude.
By that I mean feminism has taught most of them that in order to be "PRO-WOMAN" they have to become "ANTI-MAN".Feminism has also mentally conditioned multitudes of Black women today that a woman (namely a self-sufficient, professional Black woman) isweak, oppressed and very passive to a man especially if she makes a conscious decision to take good care of him in the more traditional ways that most women were taught to by their (traditional) mothers, grandmothers and or aunts in the past.tIn other words, professional or career-oriented women today who strongly desire to learn how to cook for their husbands and who strongly desire to take very good care of his home as well as his children in more traditional ways are frowned upon, and in many cases scornedby today's contemporary feminist Blackwo men.
Traditional Black women today (professional or nonprofessional) are classified as being weak, passive, old-fash ion and very outdated by modern-dayfeminist Black women. They are NOT classified as strong, nor are they considered independent.
Tod ay's feminists foolishly believe something is definitely wrong with wanting to be a "traditional" family-oriented Black woman.
Black woman, in too many cases when dealing with Black men you will have to sometimes sacrifice being right in order to enjoy being loved.
For Example: Being acknowledged as the head of the household is an especially important thing for many Black men today since their manhood is actively challenged everywhere else. It does not matter to him that you earn $10 more a week than him. Not at all!!!
Unfortunately, many modern day, "single and seeking" Black women have been mentally conditioned to automatically claim head-of the-household simply because they earn a few dollars more a week than their male companion. As a result, many of these same Black womenincite catastrophic power struggles with their men on a daily basis. And because many Black women today embrace that destructive (feminist) mentality, many of them fail to sustain healthy relationships. As a result, most of them go on to become so independent, so self-sufficient, so committed to the cause, to their church, to their careers and even to their own narrow individual concepts that their entire personalities project an:
"I DON'T NEED A MAN" ATTITUDE So they end up without one!!!!


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