You know, I can’t figure out why this dating thing is so difficult. I mean, there are endless people on this website, and therefore, presumably, they are all alone. Are we all just being too incredibly picky, too damaged to salvage? Or, have female/male relationships evolved inextricably to a place of the perpetual FWB situation?
Recently, I find myself betwixt and between two types of men: the one who pretends he wants a relationship, but really: just wants sex/is bored with his life so internet dating became the go-to choice for getting a ‘real’ one. And the other kind: really does want a relationship….if it’s easy, requires no effort, and comes gift-wrapped at Wal-Mart.
I seriously do not understand this evolutionary turn-of-events. Perhaps I should forego the concept of monogamy and genuine connection, and just go for whoever tickles my fancy tonight.
But alas, that’s not me, nor what I seek for myself. My own evolution as a woman calls for its mirror, its partner.
Me: I’m 5’8”, considerably hefty, but curved beautifully. I consider working full-time, raising my 5 year old alone with no help, and doing housework to be sufficient exercise for me. I lead a busy, active, happy life. I embrace my lush body, and demand that you do too in every way. Don’t approach me if you’re not a genuine lover of BBWs…I won’t deal with your issues on that one.
The elusive, yet incredibly simple, thing I want is a REAL RELATIONSHIP. I don’t need or want more friends, activity partners, travel companions, pen pals, or texting buddies. I want someone who is OVER that immature crap, and ready to actually date with a purpose. Doesn’t mean everything will be rosy and work out to marriage. But it does mean that you genuinely WANT marriage and ARE CAPABLE NOW of making a connection, and following it through, wherever it may lead.
I’m very smart, educated, down to earth; a great mother; kind, but don’t suffer fools easily; great sense of humor (that doesn’t rely on put-downs, jibes, or competition); see the beauty in most everything; am comfortable and confident in myself; easy to know and share with; protective of my time and energy; love to talk about anything pertinent; a good communicator; hard-working, politically aware and liberal (well...until you talk about drugs and crime, then I’m most definitely NOT liberal.)
I love family times, nature, books, poetry, erotica, kid’s stuff, being happy, laughing full-tilt, & kissing openly and publicly; reading; chocolate; simple joys and easy times.
If you resonate with any of this, have a vocabulary beyond 8th grade, have both eyes pointing the same direction, aren’t living with roommates or mommy, have something to show for having been on the planet, and genuinely WANT marriage and ARE CAPABLE NOW of making a connection, and following it through, wherever it may lead, then please contact me.
After talking on the phone, and feeling a mutual connection/chemistry....
I'd love to meet for dinner somewhere romantic and private. I like to sit close, talk, touch, and connect.
I would feel special if you were to bring flowers. It's not about $$, it's about attentiveness and effort. You could pick a daisy from the side of the road, or a simple little note you wrote to me on a post-it. Money isn't the point...I am wooed by thoughtfulness. Please dress and smell nice for me; I certainly will for you!