I think word of chivalry's untimely demise was premature. The armor may be hanging in the closet and my trusty steed looks a lot like a hybrid, but the idea is the same. I’d be lost without honor and integrity. I’ll open doors and pull out chairs for you as a sign of respect and affection. I’ll be your strongest advocate and, when necessary, your gentlest critic. Your pets will like me…even if only as a chew toy. ;)
Here’s what I’m not: a collection of check-boxes in cyberspace…or a serial dater. I am a romantic optimist who is constantly learning to harness his strengths and embrace his vulnerabilities. Much like my car, my personality is a hybrid. I'm part dynamic personality striving to lead, and part thoughtfully reserved observer seeking to listen, learn and understand. Regardless, I need to get involved and make a difference. While volunteering as part of the production team for an amazing summer music festival, I've developed a reputation as the guy who's always in the middle of the action and forgets he isn't actually paid staff.
I’m fortunate (a serious understatement) to work around music with an awesome group of people at a job I love. I have a great relationship with my team because they know from experience that I have their backs, just as I’ll have yours.
I care about the people and world around me. I returned from a kayaking outing in Marina Del Rey with a pile of soggy plastic bags and wrappers at the foot of my boat because I couldn’t bring myself to paddle through a mini Pacific Garbage Patch without making a dent in it! When I greet friends and co-workers with “How are you doing?” I actually listen to the answer and try to help if needed.
I watch what I eat and exercise several days a week because I like the way it makes me feel and I’m committed to being proactive with my health. I use turn indicators, wear eye protection around power tools, recycle, floss daily and leave the seat down, so I come fairly well-trained (although a little in-service training never hurts).
I’ve loved, lost and thrived to tell about it (although I feel no need to tell about it). I’m proud to say that my grandparents were married for over 75 years and my parents have surpassed 50, so my commitment compass defaults to true north (my moral compass is similarly calibrated). I’m looking for a partner…one woman who’s truly ready for her last first date, even if it doesn't end up being with me. You have strong values and character and, hopefully, a wicked sense of humor (witty banter and irreverent sensibilities make me smile). You’re not expecting perfection and aren’t treating POF like it’s Amazon.com for relationships. Like me, you want to spend the rest of your life sharing and growing with someone who complements (and compliments) you. Hopefully, I'll see you soon!
First dates don't come with a formula, but chemistry, great conversation and an open mind with reasonable expectations are a good start. Now...the second date...coastal drive to Santa Barbara? A moonlit hike down from the observatory? Sunset in Key West (okay...maybe not a second date...)