I am looking for someone who is willing to be friends. Being a friend is important to me and the base of any relationship. I can be hard to get to know, I am not secretive but private. But I can open up once I feel comfortable. I am not fake, I dont like to play games. I am direct, sometimes to a fault and have learned in my 40 years what I want and dont want, but I find that my line moves and are not set in stone. I like to have fun and be carefree when not at work. I need someone not afraid to be upfront and tell me exactly what they are feeling. I try very hard not to judge and appreciate people in my life that are the same. I do appreciate a man's man but who isnt wrapped up in his ego so much that is willing to listen to my opinion and take me seriously on my thoughts. Its the small things I appreciate the most, a look, a touch, a kiss... meaningful things go a long way with me rather than fluffy "comercialized" gestures.