***Guess I need a disclaimer: I am not interested in "Separated" men. Separated=Still Married. No thank you. Please respect my choice and move on.***
I am a joyful, sparkling, spirited human being, with a sharp wit and a dry-delivery-comeback for everything.A friend just told me, she lives to hear my "absolute statements" about random observations.I always have a smile on my face. And yes,I’m always nice.I default to taking the high road. (But far from being a push-over!) I’m a good person, and dogs and toddlers, the higher authorities, concur.(Did I mention I'm modest?).
All that said, I’m having a very difficult time reconciling the idea of doing this on-line-dating thing again. I tried for several years, and finally burnt out. Then hoping to meet someone organically...that didn’t work either.Sigh.
Now,I'm officially 40. Good God. How did that happen? I want a relationship.I want a husband.And yes, I want my own child.And I’m not going to get that by sitting alone at home in my off-time, am I now? But dating is not my thing.It doesn’t come naturally to me. It’s not that I’m anti-social…I’d just much rather be in a relationship for the rest of my life and be done with it.I know. where's the romance, right?Well, maybe I'll find that along the way. :) And yes,I use emoticons.
Who do I want?
I have been divorced and single most of my 30’s.I took the time I needed to heal. I am a clean slate.No drama.No craziness.I’d say I’m as “normal”as it gets, except that having parents who’ve been married 50yrs, and having a picture perfect childhood in the Bay Area,couldn’t remotely be considered normal!But I’m grounded, clear, and know who I am and what I want.I'm looking for the same kind of grounded-self-awareness in you.Honest, stable,and ***Age appropriate!!!*** Are we in the same stages of our lives?We can be the same age and be worlds apart.
So where do I go from here?I’m going to give you the basics and hope the bare-bones resonates with the right guy.
Who am I?
~I am nice.Yup.But I’m sarcastic as all get-out. Run now if you must. Tongue-in-cheek is my mainstream vocabulary
~I sang before I could speak.I continue to sing, have a substantial past in musical theatre, song-write on occasion, and dabble in voice over...love love love recording.
~To that end,I’ve been studying Music Technology/Engineering for 3 years, learning to record, edit, and mix music or digital recordings,while volunteering at the Recording Studio…and loving every last minute of it.Now if only studios had windows.
~I’ve got an off-center sense of humor and would rather find the humor in things.Politically incorrect humor is not lost on me.It’s funny ‘cuz it’s true.And I am a sucker for abstract references and wordplay. I find humor to be a HUGE bonding point. If we can't laugh at each other, then we're probably not on the same plain.
~I don’t read on purpose.There’s nothing I find enjoyable about reading, so “reading for pleasure” is an oxymoron.But,I write prolifically.I spell very badly, completely sober.I know where spell check is, and I'm not afraid to use it
~You can find me in a Bikram Studio once or twice a week. Its hard core and I love it, but its about as much organized-sport as I can handle. I’m not athletic.I will not pretend to be athletic.If you are athletic,fantastic.I will never keep you from doing what you love.Now, I love the outdoors! But I won’t be going on that 30 mile hike, nor will I be scaling a mountain with you.It will only make us both miserable.I’ll be the one who guards the picnic basket and totes the sun screen and bandages... and kiss you boo-boos.
~Contrary to that last bullet point,I absolutely am adventurous, and am up for almost anything. If it doesn’t risk life and limb…I’m in.I’ll go where the wind takes me if that’s the kind of day it is.
~I am a hot-weather person.I do not handle cold well. I will pick Hawaii over skiing any day of the week.Heck, the desert sounds better than snow.
~I have never tried any illegal drug, including pot,in my life.In kind,I cannot see myself making a life with someone who does use drugs, including pot, no matter how"not a big deal" you think it is.Sorry.Not changing my mind.
Good luck everyone!