"Sex without a matching emotional connection is like Miracle-Gro for our fear of intimacy. I have observed that when our level of emotional bonding hasn't reached our level of sexual intimacy, there is a tendency to feel insecure and needy after sex, or alternatively, to simply need to flee. Conversely, when there’s a clear sense of mutual interest and sex doesn’t happen right away, that’s when things get really exciting. Both parties begin to think of each other more frequently, and the next date can be planned with a sense of anticipation, desire, and even a bit of intoxicating fear. In that mixture of emotions, new tendrils of closeness and desire begin to grow. Let the tension and that lovely frustration build. As it builds over the next few dates, so will the intimacy between the two of you--if the connection is right. In fairness, I know great relationships that began with sex, but as a whole, I've seen that waiting with sex honors and intensifies the connection." - Ken Page, LCSW
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