I am the kind of girl who is unlikely to ever get boring. On the inside, I'm built a little like a guy (my Daddy always wanted a boy:) -- I like watching sports, prefer action movies vs. romantic comedies, and like a lot of men, the chase for me is almost as much fun as the catch. Actually in my ideal world, the "chase" doesn't end. I thrive on a certain amount of uncertainty and don't do well with monotony (No, I didn't say I'm not good with monogamy. I said monotony:). I will take friendship over courtship any day. Generally speaking, I would rather someone do or say something ridiculous that makes me laugh than write me a love song or pull out my chair -- unless, of course, being chivalrous is your thing, in which case I will happily accept. I value equality in relationships and believe that friendship is the basis of every kind of chemistry.
I am self-sufficient, creative, and talented at what I do, and I can also be a complete moron when it comes to some things. In friendships and in relationships, I am generous on every level. I have learned to listen - really listen - and am truly interested in getting to know who people are. I have zero interest in trying to change anyone, except of course myself as I see the need. I trust myself and listen to my instincts, and for that reason I am willing to take a few risks. As of this moment at least, I don't have a desire to get married again. That doesn't mean that I am not deeply loyal or capable of long term commitment. I am.
In terms of what I am looking for? I’m attracted to men who know who they are, what they want, and have the willingness to pursue it. I am strong, and I deeply admire strength in others. I also understand that that quality can look a lot of different ways. Physically, you do need to be at least a little bit taller than me, in good shape, and take pride in your appearance. Intellectually, I gravitate toward people who communicate well, are not shy about expressing their ideas and opinions, and who can both withstand and return a little smack talk. I don't think relationships need to be serious and traditional all of the time. I think people should have the space to be traditional when it feels good and non-traditional when that's what works. At this point, I am way less interested in what is "right" or "wrong," and much more interested in what *works. So in my mind, relationships should be built with plenty of room for individuality and autonomy in addition to connection.
I like being around people who can laugh at themselves (and - let's be honest - at others... including of course me). And although at the moment I am having fun filling my life with awesome new people and re-inventing myself post-divorce, my ultimate goal is to find someone to share my life with. That being said, I do not go on this site very often, so if you're interested, your first priority should be to find an alternate way to communicate with me. I prefer talking on the phone before meeting people. Very helpful in the screening process.
11/14 Update: I recently took this "values clarification" worksheet that a friend suggested that I take. The results of that checklist showed that my top values have to do with love/friendship/personal closeness; followed by sincerity and authenticity; and then emotional well-being and stability. I'm adding this info here because this same friend gave me the feedback that this profile is not reflective of my depth or my capacity for caring and connection, and I could see her point.
Another update: I never answer those "wants to meet you" or one word/generic emails. Just tryin' to save us all some time..(: