First of all if you don't send me a message the chances I'll respond from a swipe or a "John Doe wants to meet you" are against your favor.
If you "are not in the place in your life" or "it's bad timing" and can't be in a relationship STOP READING THIS RIGHT NOW and make it easy for both of us and click on someone else's profile. Being in a relationship doesn't mean it will happen immediately but some willingness to get to know each other has to be there.
The tender girl in me loves the sound of crashing waves at bed time, the smell of the ocean breeze, vanilla candles, a good red wine or coffee stout beer (believe it or not)...The fun girl In me loves cut off tattered jean shorts, your T-shirt on me for PJ's ;-), cute little bikini and the sun perfecting my tan, the feel of sand under my feet, definitely cuddling next to you on the couch - oh and YES that little black dress that makes for a perfect romantic and sexy dinner out with that tantalizing incentive of what the night might indulge us with.
But GENTLEMEN please understand something - I'm looking for someone to have a good time with on a more personal level and WITHOUT THE LIES...so if you like to be "EXCLUSIVE" with several women, please save me the grief of meeting you UNLESS you will be upfront about it - and then ofcourse what is good for the goose is good for the gander, right?
Karma is an interesting "thing" and when you think nobody is watching you Karma definitely is. You will not get away with it - trust me!
Oh and please understand the definition of athletic - it means you must be fit and not have a bulging mid section. Call me "rude-conceited" - I call it being true to my standards.
One last thing: I am a self sufficient, career driven woman and have my own friends - so if you think these are things that may come between us please don't contact me. By the same token there needs to be frequent or should I say "regular" meetings between us and I truly feel this can be achieved while letting you be the stronger person in the "relationship" and also be a well balanced man with a well balanced woman as your "partner". I don't need daily phone calls and multiple text messages on the same day, but every other day or a simple "good morning" goes a looooong way. Just don't do the once a week only - I need a little more ;-)
Casual but honest is good too.
P.S. I am actually 45, I don't know how to change the DOB (the last time I visited POF I guess I was 40)so if you think or agree that I look good for my real age (and lemme tell you I do look like my pictures) then, it's all good, right? :-)
Jeesh - if I tell you then that defeats the purpose of you being you...however, I don't like doing long dinners on the first date because you never know who will suffer most, you paying for my dinner even though we didn't get along or me being nice and sitting through a boring date. Sorry - I have to be a little bit honest right away.