I am naturally optimistic with a can-do attitude. When faced with something that breaks, I go on line, figure out how to fix it by watching YouTube videos and get immense satisfaction and pride when it works.
Don't get me wrong, I'd rather be doing other things like going to the beach, skiing, attending live concerts, gardening and traveling. But things do break and so do people and relationships.
I do not want to fix people, they are who they have chosen to be. I subcribe to let it be.
But the satisfaction of figuring out how my college age son can screw up a brand new lawnmower, taking the time to analyze why and how and not sending it out for tune-ups and repairs every year is a blast. YouTube is like having a cousin close by with the patience of a Saint.
Frank Zappa had it right when he named his band Mother's of Invention.
I love being a Mom although it was not my main goal. After having my first son, I realized it was the best job I would ever have. He's now living the dream in Brooklyn and applying his talents. My younger son is half way through college and has come into his own. Fortunately he and his brother are best friends and together we value our loving relationships with each other, our extended family and friends.
There are exclusions to my optimism: the Republican Congress and the lunatic in the White House.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
Meet, talk, look and feel if there is a mutual attraction. Nothing ventured nothing gained.