Congrats! you are the visitor 1, 000 000!
Tell me what you need and I ll tell you what I ve got. The main reason this online thing works mostly for people looking for long term and ending up only having sex i't's implicit in the veru nature of the site: Plenty of fish! Anybody who likes fishing KNOWS that one fish does not make for a good fishing day. So there are so many profiles and people alike that the uniqueness and originality of every one of us vanishes among the tons and tons of people and the so little time (and sometimes patience) to buld up something durable, to show respect, and care.
I am optimist and positive, still, about finding a person I can MAKE happy and feel the same in the proccess. Note the difference with maybe your own profile, where I bet 99.9% of the time it reads that you want somebody who makes YOU happy. Selfishness will lead to the same. I am more interested in people more willing to give than trying to fill that one big hole in their lives, companionship.