Is it a wonder why the same men remain on these sites for years? Not really. I have found in the men that I have met that men on dating sites, overall, are not honest, are not looking for relationships, are scarred by previous relationships and therefore unwilling to make room for a new woman in their lives and/or are too self centered and self absorbed to recognize that they are not all that great. I will truly regret if the one good guy out there, that is honest about who he is and what he is looking for... The guy that would fulfill my life with all that is missing... Will read my profile (as it is now) and assume I am a mean spirited, negative, man hating (every four letter word in the book) woman. On the other hand, the right man for me would recognize that he is different. He will know that he is not a game player. He will not have lied about his age or put up pictures taken in the 90's. He will not hold all women responsible for his bad divorce/break-ups, or the unfavorable settlement agreements. He will not be judgemental and decide who I am before he has met me; including why I don't have children. He will want to treat me like a lady not because he wants to sleep with me but because he is a gentleman and he likes me. He will know that he is different. He will want to show me that he is different. It will be natural and instinctive to be a nice, caring, loving and passionate man.
But because I doubt he is out there reading my profile (because so far the evidence proves to me that there are NO good men online), I hold no hope that anyone worthy of me will read this and understand the frustration of being a women over 50 looking for a compatible life partner online. I do hope you will read this and think about why you are online and is that what your profile states. I hope you will read this and think about how you treated the women you met and dated. I hope you will read this and think about who you are looking for and why? Women deserve to be treated with respect. Men online that are posing as men desiring relationships but are really looking for a hook up, a woman to take out their anger and aggressions remaining within their souls from their marriage or a client for their fitness training business should look in the mirror and see the jerk reflected. That is not why women are are online. And if you're a man over 50 please stop thinking you are somehow too good for a woman your own age. Why do men online feel so entitled to only date women 10-15 years younger? Seriously? Look in the mirror... You're old too! And what is up with the attitude that there is a back door with a line of perfect women just standing there waiting for YOU? STOP!!! There is not a backdoor of women waiting to date you. Would you be embarrassed to tell your mother how you treat women you meet online? Were you taught to treat women like they are replaceable and unworthy? Who do you think you are?
Judgement works both ways and it is impossible to know what you have before you until you give it a chance face to face; the senses of touch, smell and sound are not available on a dating website. Neither is the possibility of exploring the depths of our inner being. I will say being online has been an eye opening realization of who I am and who I am not willing to be for anyone else. If you are looking for the perfect person that fits into your perfect mold of what you think you deserve or should have... My guess is that you will never find her... She doesn't exist. Love and Happiness don't come from perfection or preplanned packages. There is more to women than the unrealistic standards and expectations that most of you have set.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
An expensive dinner that my date will pay for... "A free meal" Isn't that what men think women are looking for?
Just pay for the lousy cup of coffee. Act like a man. Treat a lady like a lady. If you have a great conversation consider yourself lucky. Maybe you have met the woman that when you are old, falling apart, big belly, sagging everything, achy and can't even make it to the toilet without help, she will still be by your side because she fell in love with you... It has nothing to do with a free meal. Women like men that treat them kindly. Plain and simple.