I Give Up: 7 Reasons I’m Done With Online Dating
Here’s why I’m done:
1. It hasn’t worked
I’m still single. I’ve met 10-15 girls over six years and none of them have panned out. Don’t worry – I’m not discouraged about it. I did end up in one relationship from online dating, it wasn’t healthy. So, in summary, it just hasn’t worked.
2. It’s distracting
As a professional working in a high end career job I have a lot to do. I have a lot to keep up with. I also have a life.
As I joined more dating sites, I found myself spending at least an hour every day sending messages to girls and seeing who the new girl on the block was. Never getting a reply back. My massges weren't "hi" or "hello" they were legit sincere messages. This killed my productivity. All I got done was sending messages – no career-building whatsoever. That’s a problem.
3. It’s the same girls
Maybe this is a function of living in a town of just over 40,000 people, but all of the girls are the same. When I hopped from site to site, the only thing that changed was the CSS (and the number of girls with little people roaming the earth).
4. I obsessed over my profile
Each new dating site meant a new profile. It wasn’t a simple copy/paste. And being a metric-focused marketer, I’d turn it into an A/B test. Sometimes, I’d talk about my career. Other times, I’d make it look like I just worked full-time. And I constantly wondered if my profile was turning people off. Doesn’t matter now because I'm done with this bullshit.
5. People send too many “hi” messages
Want to make a human connection? Send more than “hi :)” I got a lot of these useless messages. Learn to ask a question about something on my profile. But, this goes both ways. Girls who sent me messages wouldn’t have a full profile. This meant the only question I could ask was “Who the hell are you?” And trust me, that wasn’t a good start.
6. Every girl looks for the same five things
A funny guy, good conversation, respect, their best friend, and someone to do things with. Every. Single. Girl. After viewing hundreds, sorry; thousands of profiles, I’m willing to make that non-scientific conclusion. Writing the same thing on your profile as every other girl doesn’t make you different. I’m sick of reading the same five sentences.
7. It’s expensive
I’m done with $50 dinners where my date doesn’t even say thank you. I’m done with buying flowers on the second date because it won’t go anywhere. And I’m done with paying multiple (wasteful) monthly fees to online dating services. I’ve spent over $1,000 on monthly fees, first-date dinner and drinks, and concert tickets. And let’s just say, it’s obviously not money well spent.
So you may be thinking, how are you going to meet people if you’re not going to do online dating anymore? It’s simple: I’m going to meet people face-to-face. How it used to happen.
Credit for this great truth goes to: http://micadams.com/7-reasons-im-done-with-online-dating/#axzz2x2DIgN8M