I came upon this site because a forum topic and I thought, "what the heck, I might as well see what's out there" I have been a single mom for a long time. My kids, job and doing my best to make a nice life for us has been my focus for a long time. I am now starting to realize that I need to start building a life for myself that will sustain me when my kids are grown and moved on. This is one of the ways I am doing that. Sometimes I think I should be on some kind of friend finder site, because that is really what I need right now. I don't need a man. I am doing quite well on my own, but if I happen to meet a kindred spirit that would be great.
I think that I have a feminine quality about me, but I suppose I am sort of a tomboy. Although I spend a small fortune on my hair, I do not spend an hour each day fixing it, I don't have fancy nails and most days I don't wear makeup. I don't have a closetful of shoes and handbags. But I do like to dress up on occasion.
I consider myself to be reasonably intelligent (I know the difference between there, their and they're & two, to and too-although when I am tired or distracted I sometimes use them incorrectly so be nice and don't call me on it ;-)). I believe myself to be open minded and to have a good sense of humor, and these are traits I need in a partner. One of the things that is going to be very hard for me when my kids leave (especially my oldest) is the humor between all of us. My family's humor definitely gets a little weird sometimes, but we have fun, and I often feel that my kids are the only ones who truly understand my humor at times.
Being outdoors makes me happy even if it is just yard work (I prefer yard work to housework any day). I enjoy walking my dog at the beach or hiking. I would love to go backpacking. My dad took me a couple of times when I was a kid and I loved it, but that was a long time ago. I don't have the equipment or experience to go by myself. I have rock climbed a few times and loved it, but again that was a long time ago. I want to learn to kayak. I keep trying to snowboard, but I mostly just snowfall (I am not much fun to go with for those who are good at it). I can ski a little better than I can snowboard, but I think boarding is more fun. I have been snowmobiling once and it was a blast. Rafting in fun. So, I guess I would say that I enjoy mildly to moderately adventuresome activities, but definitely nothing too extreme for me, I have way too much a propensity to injure myself. I want to learn to dance (not just club dancing-I am not a bar/night club person). So if you are only semi-coordinated like me and want to learn, or you are an expert and just dying to teach people like me... I would try salsa, or African dance, or swing, or Viennese Waltz, or Polka, or 2 step...
Also, I would like to start traveling more.
I like music of most all kinds. Currently I have been listening to a lot of alternative and rock. I have gone through country music phases and have a lot of it on my ipod, but I don't listen to it much anymore, although I still enjoy some of it. I have a little of everything from classic to punk and metal on my ipod. I like artists from Alison Krauss to All American Rejects, Bach to Billy Idol, Cake to Crosby, Stills and Nash, Don Williams to Death Cab for Cutie, Shaggy, Sarah Bareilles, Sarah McLachlan, Sia, Shinedown, Sick Puppies, Simon and Garfunkle, and Sugarland to Zach Brown Band....well you get to point. I actually like the music my teenage kids listen to. That is one of the things I will really miss about them, they introduce me to music I wouldn't have heard otherwise. Recently to find new music I have been looking up music from movie sound tracks as well as artists and songs mentioned in books I have read- I recently found a beautiful opera song from Lakme-the Flower Duet, that I never would have heard if I hadn't read a mention of it in a book. From the same book I discovered an artist I really like, Jeff Buckley (I have no idea how I missed him in the ninety's when his one and only album came out before he died). Bonus points if you know what book these were mentioned in. ;) Double bonus points if you are still reading this!! I have discovered that I have to listen to music if I am going to get any housework done.
I love animals of all kinds-cats, dogs, goats, chickens, ducks, parrots, fish-even pet rats and snakes. Don't worry, I only have 2 cats (mostly outdoor) and a dog. I would like to get chickens again if I ever get the coop finished. I listed in my "INTERESTS" babies (but I don't want any more of my own), animals, BABY ANIMALS. Please keep me away from all free kittens and puppies and don't let me go into a feed store in the springtime.
As I stated in "THE BASICS" I'm a nurse but I don't want someone who expects to be taken care of. Please don't bother with me if you don't have your own life under control. I'm not saying I expect you to be perfect, nor is my life is totally problem free (I have teenagers, that speaks for itself doesn't it?). I don't want to sound rude but here are the things you will not get from me- I will not support you, pay off your bills or loan you money; I will not get drugs for you, or put up with drug or alcohol abuse by you; I will not get into a crazy co-dependent relationship with you with lots of drama, etc.
As you may have figured out I am straightforward, blunt at times. I am really not interested in drama. I am looking for someone who is playful yet responsible. Joyful, positive, kind, funny-that's what I'm looking for.
Oh, by the way, If you want to meet me message me and let me know, don't just push the "meet me" button. Better yet, reference something from my profile, don't just say "hey, what's up".