I enjoy making people laugh and make the best out of every situation. i LOVE THE RAIN!! I have 2 great dogs that I treat like my kids!! I have been date free for several years, & for some reason my children seem to think that it is time for me??.. Whatever that means?!!!!!
I have gained about 10 pounds since my profile pictures??? So if you are superficial then you need not read any further... I wanted to try to lighten up on my smoking>>> and I have that is for sure!! however.....It comes with a price? LOL that is where the extra pounds come in to play!! but I guess it is worth it? I am up in the air about though? I have to admit!!!
I get told that the eating should slow down as well as the eating? I sure hope so? LOL
Anyways, If you are still interested... then SWEET! if not then I wish you the best of luck in your dating search!!
Check out my Assesment Test results!! It tells alot about a person? So they say?!!!
LOVE & LAUGHTER,
Your Assessment is below
Interdependence refers to how much you need dependency or a "couple identity" with your partner.
Your answer pattens suggest that you tend not to become overly dependent on a romantic partner. People scoring like you are comfortable being singled out for praise and rewards, and their personal identity and independence from others is important to them. Therefore, it seems you need a reasonable level of independence in a relationship. This does not mean that you do not desire to be close with a partner. Indeed, when you feel close to someone, this person often becomes an important part of who you are on the inside and you probably like showing off your “couplehood” in public. However, you do not necessarily need to be constantly “joined at the hip” in order to feel connected and secure in a relationship. Bottom line: you need someone who reciprocates a strong feeling of attachment to a partner but who also respects and copes well with the fact that you benefit from a reasonable level of physical and psychological space at times.
Next, PlentyofFish presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your
“interdependency” needs with potential partners:
“Are you the type of person who feels lonely easily? Please explain and share some past experiences of how you coped well or did not cope well”
"When it comes to the time a couple spends together, is quality more important than quantity in your opinion?"
“When you’ve been away from a partner for any length of time, how have you filled that time and found personal fulfillment?”
Intimacy refers to the how much you need emotional closeness with your partner.
You are very comfortable with being intimate and vulnerable with a partner. However, your desire for emotional closeness and security puts you at some risk for disclosing too much, too soon when a relationship is newly developing. People like you have big hearts and an impressive openness to your partner. That openness includes lessons learned from your past experiences and relationships, extending trust, believing your partner returns your feelings and devotion and being generally comfortable with surrendering yourself to a partner. In fact, you probably feel very uncomfortable – and even guilty – if there were any secrets between you and your partner. Likewise, you regard your lover as your best friend and your foremost confidant. There is typically no hesitation discussing current problems or concerns with this person. It also seems that you have realistic expectations for a committed relationship. You are willing to act on the belief that your partner’s feelings are equally as strong as yours. Therefore, you are probably not deterred in taking the risks associated with being vulnerable on all levels. Bottom line: you need someone who believes and acts on the belief that the intimacy of a relationship is sacred.
Next, PlentyofFish presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “intimacy” needs with potential partners:
“Under what circumstances do you think it is okay for someone to discuss details of his/her relationship with family or friends?”
“What type of issues would you talk to your friends or family about before sharing with your partner?”
“Do you think couples should have access to each other’s bank accounts, email accounts, calendars and basically all personal information?”
Food for Thought! PlentyofFish wants you to know about some idiosyncrasies the assessment identified in you. These are issues for you to contemplate on your own or explore with a professional relationship/dating coach.
Issues you seem to Over-value
It is difficult for me to depend on others. Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you fear you will not live up to your partner’s expectations or that your partner will not live up to yours, that you are overly proud or that you are generally insecure. On the positive side, it could mean that you are naturally independent and self-sufficient or that you do not like to burden or inconvenience others.
Issues you seem to Under-value
I usually discuss my problems and concerns with my partner. Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you are overly private, that you distrust or disrespect your partner or that you are egotistical and unable to ask for help. On the positive side, it could mean that you are protective of your partner, that you show a level of individuality and independence or that you have a good understanding of what types of problems you can handle versus not handle on your own.
Self-Efficacy refers to your self-image, stability of mood and level of motivation.
You have good levels of self-esteem, sense of self and a sense of accomplishment. It seems you are acutely aware – but accepting – of your strengths and weaknesses. Likewise, you likely feel that people who are important in your life understand you. But people in your scoring range tend to be comfortable not giving in to peer, family and other social pressures. Family is indeed important to you, but their expectations do not strongly influence your life. Instead, people who score like you tend to have their own well-defined ambitions and goals – and may even set specific benchmarks to monitor the progress made toward achievements. You probably have a strong sense of control over your life and are decisive in managing it. You are also pr