I have been single for over a decade and finally feel ready to give online dating another try. Interestingly, my computer science high school teacher told us not to even try, just do it. Trying means you aren't even doing this to begin with. Trying just mean trial and avoid errors. If you do it, errors will kick in and you have to work around it. For this year, I am taking some small steps to doing things outside of the box because of some major changes prompting me to do so. A wheel chair bounded friend told me to stop building walls because there are enough walls and limitations to begin starting with circumstances that are beyond our control. Life would be strange if changes didn't happen. Indeed, I am terrified to wake up as Rip Van Winkle after spending years living independently and unwilling to let myself become vulnerable.
I grew up in San Francisco Nob Hill from 6 years old until college. I moved back to Nob Hill in late 2014 and is living on my own in an apartment. My childhood runs to Cala foods for ice cream and snacks is replaced by Trader Joe's grocery errands. Trader Joe's has an extremely long line which I typically tend to avoid. As a curious person, I wondered if people view this as some kind of social interaction when waiting in line and if they really finish all the groceries. I can not bear to waste food but would donate it away to my "human compactor/disposal" friend who loves left over. Bu I almost always end up throwing away the whole milk. I grew up drinking whole milk and that is what I prefer. I find that I barely need anything living on my own. I enjoy the solitude, however, at time I feel like the old librarian Shawshank Redemption freed from jail. It would be nice to have breakfast or dinner with you and even sharing my place some day.
My turning point in being proactive in seeking a serious relationship was when I was walking down the street and noticed a grandfather holding his toddler grandson. There are some simple wishes that I would like to fulfill for my own father. I hope to achieve them on my own as a part of the healing process.
Because of the extreme difficulty with parking, I have taken Uber/Lyft a number of times. After talking to the drivers, I started driving Uber. This is really an out of box experience for me. But it gives me a chance to focus on the road,distract myself from my many many thoughts in life. I have many stories to share and stories to hear from others. It's not an easy job at all and people have asked me if I can drive once they get into my car. I like people who can think differently and even people that can set me straight too, because my brain has too many bugs. It's a short term gig that helped me grow a bit in addition to rediscovering my neighborhood.
If anything I wrote here sparks an interest, please shoot me a line.
( This is the ramble that I wrote 4 years ago in attempt to try online dating. I did not have the guts to meet any guys on this site nor deleted the profile information. All I did was browse and browse thru tons of guy's profiles. I wrote a couple of short e-mail from time to time and gave up. As you can tell, I am a bit of a pack rat, I love hoarding information, media, and paper works at home. I am a bit amused and shocked by my younger naive self. )
I love to bake and cook but not necessarily eat all the food that I make... I need a tester! Hopefully, whatever I make turn out tasty, if not, I would try again. I would like to improve my abilities in other area, being creative, making things for the house, working on sewing projects/ scrap booking. For the upcoming year, I would like to travel outside of the country even though I feel equally comfortable at home in San Francisco.
If I were to meet a guy from this site, I hope he is decent looking ( I like guys that are taller and bigger than me, I guess duh!) , kind, approachable, open-minded, funny, and easy to have some deep conversations about life and experiences. After all, none of us are perfect, and we have lots to learn from others and ourselves. I would like to get to know a guy to a point that I can read his thoughts to a certain extent in addition to having good communication. This might sound cheesy/surreal but people do really transcend beyond their own physical selves to a much deeper soul that require time and an openness to learn about.
I am observant and enjoy people watching from time to time, I want to tell you everything that I just saw and heard!
I like playing TABOO, better at giving clues than guessing the words.
I am not directions challenged but horrible at parallel parking for living in San Francisco.
Coffee, a good laugh, and a hot shower is the best medicine ever.
I am very attracted to a protective man but strongly independent on my own.
I need to tell you what's on my mind and love a good listener.
I am really dumb sometimes, you can laugh at me/ with me instead of lecturing me.
People approach me all the time for directions on the street, I guess I look friendly enough?
I am really shy but if I can open up to you, that means I really respect you.
A guy told me I have old lady's hands and it's true, I hope you don't mind the ducks feet that I got too.
I like looking at the Sunday comics, reading NYT, these writers are so smart at expressing it all.
Some of my best friends are guys.
I am made in China and packaged in America.
I hope I am hilarious.
I like 80s/90s music, Koit 96.5 and Alice 97.3 are 2 of my favorite stations. I also listen to some Chinese pop songs from time to time. I can not read but I am fluent enough to speak although I am much better at expressing myself in English. I totally dig guys that can speak another language beside English but it's perfectly fine if you don't. If you are Chinese like me, I would prefer that you can speak some of that. I also like listening to some piano music like Yiruma, classical, and the Trans Siberian orchestra.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
Have coffee, I'll show you the neighborhood where I grew up. If I feel comfortable enough with you, we can go to the Moraga steps and walk up to one of my favorite spot here in the city.