I'm looking for someone with whom to socialize, date, have as a friend, and see where that may go. I like books, good films, great food (I love to cook), dancing (I was an instructor for 8 years), quiet conversation, exploring ideas, music, and laughter (not necessarily in that order). I have a very good sense of humor, which is, in my view, essential to deal well with life, and have no problem laughing at myself. I'm a romantic at heart. If you are that woman who likes intelligent and witty conversation; enjoys walking on a crisp night with stars as our companions; is looking for a man who will treat her like the woman she is and not try to make her into what he thinks she should be; who desires affection, whether holding hands on a walk, cuddling on a couch, or just a brush of my hand through her hair as I walk by; is as comfortable in an evening dress for a night on the town as in a pair of jeans and T-shirt, and would like a little poetry in her life, notes left in unexpected places, or a short story written just for you, send me a message. Affectionate, considerate, and a listener, I'm passionate and laid-back at the same time. The friendships I form are deep and long-lasting: after all the work of building a relationship, why burn the bridge? My pet peeves: hypocrisy, willful ignorance, and bullies of any kind. I have no interest whatsoever in one-night stands or game playing (I'll leave that to the reality TV crowd, and subscribers to Fling and AdultFriendFinder). I do not brachiate from woman to woman like some less evolved primates.
When people ask me what I do for a living, I usually respond that I'm in the business of changing souls. If you believe that the eyes are the windows of the soul, and I do, then the voyage of discovery is not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes. In my classes, that's what I try to instill in my students. Give someone new eyes and his or her life is changed (would love to have a conversation with Adam and Eve about that!). I try to bring that to a relationship, too, looking at my partner each day to see some new, small wonder that I hadn't seen before.
I have a well established professional career. I'm on the faculty at one of the local regional universities (teaching in the humanities and the sciences), divorced after a 20+ year marriage, and have a 21-year-old son who at the moment lives with me. No messy "ex's" stuff--it was a friendly divorce, with no child custody issues, and she has remarried, and we remain friends (no burning of bridges, like I said).
My work keeps me pretty busy, but I find opportunities to cook, listen to music (even play some, though rather badly), ride my bike, exercise, and spend some time with my son, but, since most of my friends are either married or have partners, I'd prefer to get out more and do some things with someone who is single and has a few interests similar to mine. I won't reply unless you have a photo posted.