It's really hard to summarize myself into such a tiny box but never the less I will try. I've been single since August 2012, why so long? I can't find the right person. I'm looking for something real, I want a little bit of spark. I'm not willing to settle for less than I deserve. I know what I have to give the right person, and I'm not interested in hopping into the first relationship that comes along. However, if you are the type of person I'm looking for, I will be happy to snag you right up if we click well. I am not desperate, I'm not a creep (although I do make jokes sometimes, it's too easy after hearing about what some guys on this site do), I have manners and live a comfortable life. I have a career not just a job, my own place (with roomates), I have goals and ambitions, I love helping people, I like to leave everyone I meets life just a little bit better. I'm a very positive person and I'm looking for the same. If you hate life and never smile, I'm not interested. We are complete opposites and in this case, opposites that will not attract.
I am a very open and honest person, probably to the point of fault. I will tell you the truth even if I barely know you. Some people can't seem to handle my level of honesty, if that's a problem, I'll be honest, I'm not interested. I'm not saying that I answer every message I get, but I am saying that if you ask me a question expect an honest answer. If you aren't ready for the honest truth, then do not ask the question. I wouldn't say any of this if it had not been a problem in the past.
What I am Looking For:
Someone who is honest (This can't be stressed enough on this site...)
Someone who can communicate
Brownie points if you care about doing something for the greater good or are trying to achieve more out of your life.
I have a weak spot for truly kind and caring hearts.
Someone that keeps themselves in shape, I workout regularly as I feel the need. I prefer the same.
I prefer 0-1 kid. Two kids is okay as well but does affect my feelings on the matter a bit. if you have three or more, I'm probably not going to be interested unless we seriously click like nobodies business. I am fine with a package deal, but I'm not looking for an instant family (just add water?)
A few things about me:
I'm planning on going into the military early 2014. You can't change my mind. I'm going into the reserves if I get accepted and thus should not be an issue. I have a career, I can't afford a pay cut by going full time in the military. But I want to do my part and I want to help people.
I want to leave something here that will outlive me and continue to help people long after I'm gone. Yes, I have a few ideas on what that will be and I am working on it.
I lost my fiance to cancer on December 11, 2011. I mean it when I say life is too short to not be happy.
I have a soft spot for the less fortunate.
I'm always working on something and rarely if ever get bored.
I do not watch TV or movies but it's easy to talk me into it if I want to spend time with you. Yes, I do enjoy them, I just choose to spend my time doing other activities.
I like to try and experience new places and things. Life is all about the journey!
I've never been in a relationship where we fight constantly, and don't plan on getting into one now. I'm pretty easy to get along with. I'm far from being an ***hole, but I am assertive and know what I want.
I get told often I'm a very nice guy and easy to talk to. Don't take my word for it, I have references! ;-)
A few things you should know since they are common issues on this website:
If all you answer with are lol and k, I will not continue the conversation until some other time if at all. Have some personality please. If it's not worth your time to write even a single sentence, it's not worth my time to answer.
If you can't ask questions and can only answer them, we won't click. Sorry I need someone that has the ability to communicate and why waste each others time? It won't even make a good friendship if things are like that. And how can someone expect a relationship to go well if you can't even communicate on the most basic levels?
If you are the type of person that would rather make up an excuse than to just be honest about your feelings, don't bother messaging me. I'm not interested.
If you aren't interested, I make a pretty decent friend as well. Just saying. It doesn't have to result in a relationship. Good people are still good people. Just be honest and we will get along just fine.
Generally I prefer to go to dinner or out to do something together like the beach, or someplace fun. I feel it's important that everyone feel comfortable and safe so I tend to prefer well lit places where there are other people around at least until you get to know the person. Not because I'm worried so much as I don't want you to have to worry because we don't know each other yet. I know we've all heard bad stories about people on the internet and I can assure you that I'm not one of those, hence my choice to pick a safe neutral spot.