One of my favorite philosophers recently wrote about the "absolute" in anything. Absolute sleeps in bed with "always", "certain", "never". Many times in my life I have felt unwaveringly convicted about one thing or another. I was certain something was "the best" or "the only way". There is such a great cost when we work in absolutes. As this professor says, "Its absolutely one way, until its not". When things are at an absolute the door is closed. There is no spark of debate for further conversation and understanding. The potential is dead, literally. I could easily say I absolutely need a man that is an athletic power house, over 6'3, and has a perfect track record with his family. I could say I absolutely never date anyone who was born and raised in the OC, or wherever. I hope you see my point. I am no longer interested in the absolutes, I am interested in the "what if's" and maybes. I want the door to be cracked at least just a little, for that is how the light gets in.