Update: I just moved to Iowa City for a new job.
I was born in the Midwest to a typical family in a typical tiny town. I grew up and became a student affairs professional. I love good conversation and can hold one with about anybody. I don't like describing myself or interests in an online forum. For some reason I'm not particularly good at it or I just don't like it. So with that in mind, I'm going to randomly lists tidbits about myself and the things I look for in a woman (notice, I said woman, not girl). They are not in any particular order. Just trying to be honest and up front; not trying to offend or anything. Ready? Okay, let's get started:
I would prefer that you're happy with yourself over depending on someone else to determine your self worth. Of course having someone in your life can be great, but that can't be the only thing that determines your happiness.
I'm pretty open and love a good laugh. True story. I'm going to try and make you laugh every once in a while.
If you ask I'll deny it, but I'm a romantic if it's for the right girl. (Bonus points if you're a Chivette)
If I can't hold a conversation with you, we probably won't last. Fact. If I'm not even stimulated by what we're talking about, you'll lose my interest. You could be the hottest thing that ever walked this earth and yeah, I'd notice you (I'm a guy, after all), but, if you don't have anything interesting to talk about and we have no chemistry then it just won't work.
I put myself through college and grad school, that's something I never thought I'd be able to do, but I surprised myself. I almost became a counselor, but went into student affairs instead. I'll probably go back to school at some point in the future to get my Ph.D or to be a counselor, but not for a while. A long while.
Yeah, my heart has been annihilated before. It sucked and I got wounded pretty bad. I honestly felt I had a great future with this person, she had other plans. I'm only bringing it up because I think it's important to note that I learned some good things about myself through the whole experience. Her and I are amicable and I wish her the best. That's all I'll say about that.
I keep odd hours for my job and sometimes have to work a lot. But, my job is fun and fulfilling; I love it. I also like to have a good balance between work and my personal life; which can be hard but I try!
These are the things that are important to me in a relationship (in no particular order): loyalty, respect, a GOOD sense of humor, physical attraction, chemistry, and being able to learn stuff from each other.
Actually, I like dudes. (Just kidding! Gotta make sure you're paying attention)
A few things: Dumb and Dumber still makes me laugh, I love a good wheat beer, rainy days are relaxing, golden retrievers are the best kind of dogs, I want to get on Jeopardy--I know a lot of useless trivia, clowns = NO, Louis C.K. makes me laugh, I do that thing where my friends and I discuss what we'd do if one of us won the lottery but I don't buy lottery tickets, just realized that being an uncle is AWESOME, I own an old muscle car that I'm fixing up, TED talks are amazing, make me laugh and you'll be fine...I can't think of anymore right now.
There's a difference between a compromise and compromising your values. You shouldn't lose who you are in a relationship and I don't want you to.
I love to get out and do stuff, I'm okay with road trips, concerts, and movies. But I'm not going to lie, it is pretty nice when the girl you like is okay with just wanting to be with *you* at home on the couch every once in a while.
Is this too much information? I don't know what the rules are for this stuff.
If we have some of the same interests, great, but I also think it's great if people in relationships have their own interests and outlets.
Speaking of interests, I like country music along with a litany of other genres and bands. What's on my iPod playlist right now (in no particular order): Waylon Jennings, Kings of Leon, The Avett Brothers, The Foo Fighters, Mumford & Sons, Angels & Airwaves, Eric Church, Frightened Rabbit, George Strait, The Civil Wars, The Airborne Toxic Event, Gary Allan, etc. I love sports in general. Reading is good, I do a lot of that when I get a chance. I love yoga pants, not on me, but yeah.