Family man at heart but love doing my own thing. This is hard, I'm still defining myself, complex in some ways, simple in others, my friends know me well so they can likely tell you better.... :) What I do know is that I have a great family and that I am surrounded by amazing friends. I know that everyone says that but really, from my childhood friends, to people that I have only met in the last few years, I tend to find the good ones. If my family and friends are any reflection upon myself then I must be pretty good. :)
I enjoy meeting new women, but I often receive more requests than I can accept, especially when I'm traveling. So this update explains my policy on which invitations I'm inclined to accept for meeting up, and which I'm likely to decline.
Instead of being random in deciding which invites to accept vs. decline, I believe it makes the most sense to pre-filter for those types of connections that are likely to have the greatest mutual compatibility. So in a way, this page is intended to scare off those women who aren't likely to be very compatible with me socially, so we don't waste each other's time with a forced or unsatisfying attempt at connection.
Body - Body connections include all forms of touch, such as hugging, cuddling, kissing, massage, etc. I love connecting with women through touch - hugs, etc. For me, cuddling & hugging is part of the getting-to-know-you process. I see it as a great way to read a person's energy. When I cuddle & hug a woman, I can sense how comfortable she is connecting with me. If she feels tense or closed, it's unlikely that we'll have a good connection. If she can let go, open her heart, and allow herself to tap into that delicious state of unconditional love, then I know she's a woman worth getting to know. I genuinely enjoy hugging & cuddling even when there's no desire to take the physical connection beyond that, so a body connection doesn't automatically imply a sexual one. If we have good chemistry, then we can explore other ways to connect physically if they feel right to us both, including massage, kissing, sex, etc. But that's something I believe we can only really determine in person. I'm much more selective with sex partners than I am with cuddle partners, so I've cuddled many women that I haven't slept with, which is fine by me. If you're a woman who wants to meet up, but you know for sure that you'd rather not be touched and you don't like hugs and physical affection, please don't bother making the invite. All else being equal, I'll decline that kind of invitation and say yes to one from a woman who likes to be held. I know from experience that there's no shortage of quality women who enjoy connecting through touch. If you don't want to be touched, I respect that, so please respect my decision not to invest in a connection with you.
Mind - I love smart women. I find intelligence sexy and attractive. I like women with whom I can share deep conversations across a variety of subjects. I especially love to connect with highly creative women such as artists, musicians, dancers, actresses, designers, etc. I find myself fascinated and enthralled by such women, and I love getting to know them. I love women who can introduce me to new experiences and who appreciate it when I do the same for them. There are many facets of intelligence, and I love to connect with women who are smarter than I am in some of those facets, such as women with greater musical or aesthetic intelligence than I possess. Mentally I require total honesty in my connections with women. Don't even think about playing manipulative games with me. I prefer direct and straightforward communication. If you want to know where you stand with me, ask me and I'll tell you. If I feel something isn't quite working between us, I'll point it out and discuss it with you.
Heart - What most attracts me to a woman is her heart. I love women who are kind, caring, compassionate, loving, generous, and very very affectionate. If a woman is cold or apathetic, forget it -- not interested. I also tend to be attracted to women who have a sensitive and vulnerable side, but they don't share it with everyone, just those they know they can trust. I know myself to be a very trustworthy and honest man, so when I connect with a very caring and sensitive woman, it's magical. When there's a strong heart alignment, we're almost guaranteed to share a strong spiritual connection too. When other men ask me if I think a particular woman is beautiful, I can't answer until I have a chance to connect with her heart. I was born here in Miami, a place where women with model-caliber bodies are everywhere, but many of them can be quite unattractive once you get to know them. Consequently, I'm unimpressed by what passes for physical-level beauty. I get turned on first and foremost by a woman's heart. That's the dimension of a woman that truly captivates me. I'm strongly attracted to very heart-centered women.
Spirit - I love women who have a very feminine spirit. Connecting with a woman's spirit is a dance, and the best dancing is an interplay of polarities. A woman whose energy is too much like mine isn't going to be a good dance partner. I love it when a woman can fully surrender herself to me, letting go with total love and trust. When a woman's spirit draws me in, the effect is almost hypnotic. Women who are good matches for me recognize me as a kindred spirit. They're drawn to my energy, even if they don't know exactly why. They know that deep down, we're supposed to dance together in some fashion. We're meant to be part of each other's lives. Quantity-wise there aren't many women with whom I feel this type of connection, but when this dimension is present, it's amazing. If you feel no special attraction to my spirit, if I seem interchangeable with any other guy out there, or if this part just sounds weird to you, then we're not compatible in this dimension. But if you got goosebumps instead, I want you in my life.
You are of course free to manage your own social life differently. I recognize and accept that my situation is a bit unusual, but I have to deal with my social reality as it is. I hope you can understand that, regardless of how you feel about it.
I'm not looking for a lot of matches here. I only desire a few good ones that are worth the investment of time and energy.
If you think we're a strong match for meeting up in person based on what I shared here, get in touch. Please let me know that you've read my profile fully, and tell me why you think we'd be a good match.