I'll be the first to admit I was always in love with the idea of being in LOVE. I used to think "Oh I can change him", or "Maybe I'm not being understanding enough?" " I should listen more". And my favorite was " If I hang in there, sooner or later he'll come around. This man's got potential! Well the HELL with potential. The truth of the matter is a women can't operate on the M*I*G*H*T*S? or M*A*Y*B*E*S? ONLY THE W*A*H*T I*F*S? I look back and I realize my mindset was all WRONG. In the mindset of always trying to make the unworkable work out. I forgot about MY happiness.
Sometimes I found myself walking around feeling like I would lose out if I didn't give all I could--SEX, TIME, ENERGY, ETC. It didn't help. I saw women's magazine after women's magazine that said:Are we too aggressive?" Are we giving up the Victoria's Secret too soon?" "Are we too overbearing in our relationships?" "TOO FAT?" "TOO SKINNY" "Do we LOVE ourselves enough?". IT'S A WONDER WE WOMEN AREN'T ALL CRAZY FROM THE GARBAGE THE MEDIA THROWS AT US. GIVE US A BREAK Y'ALL! BEEN THERE DONE THAT
A female could spend her life dodging those pitfalls and warnings signs. INSTEAD of putting ourselves through all the hardship, it's much simpler to just ask MEN 1. What they really think? 2. Does he LOVE you? 3.Does he even LIKE you? (After all, you don't need to give a man all the goods if you don't even know what he wants.) THINK ABOUT IT! Friendship is the key to any relationship, male, female, or other wise, Right? I am not a relationship expert, but my experiences have taught me the HARD way, and now I have a much better approach and outlook on LIFE and LOVE.
At the end of the day, considering everything that's happened to me, I DO NOT regret a moment. I DID IT! How embarrassing, wonderful or painful as it was. I had to go through it all TO BE THE WOMAN I AM TODAY... I am not a pretender. What you see is what you get. Plain and simple.