I'm taking a break from online dating to find out how to approach relationships. Apparently what I wanted in the past wasn't close to what I truly need. I have to realign my expectations while staying true to myself and my core values. While on a break, recent requests from members started a few conversations which indicate that my views and values seem to be only met by those who are fairly close and/or slightly above my age. My inactive status seem to help others to overcome inhibitions and show their true self through a risk-free casual talk because a guy who's on a break can't break your heart. I really enjoyed these real grown-up conversations, so I will keep checking-in regularly to see if there are new members who might spark my interest. I won't approach anyone until I understand how to improve my chances, though.
While I'm thinking about a better, but still honest and true approach, here's what will probably stay unchanged:
- In my world a spark is generated by my personal impression, not by comparing people to others
- Being genuine, balanced and honest are key. Outspoken and fiery are perks.
- Recent, natural and realistic pictures help, those which show what you may look like 5-7 days a week. For example a morning sleepy-head smile with a coffee shows the real person. Having fun with friends does that differently.
- Being healthy within reasonable limits is best.
- Patience and understanding matters a lot.
- Hobbies and job titles are what you do and what you might like. May differ from who you are.
- Being curious about the unknown and interested in the new and the different is valued.
- Timing and taking time to explore things is beneficial.
To send a message to SAHD_4 you MUST meet the following criteria:
Age between 34 and 42.
Live in United States
Live within 75 miles.
Must not have messaged users looking for intimate encounters or sex.
You must have a picture to contact this user.
Must not be looking for Hang Out
Must not be looking for Talk/E-mail
Must not be looking for Other Relationship
Must not be looking for Intimate Encounter
Must not be looking for Activity Partner
Must not do drugs
Must not be married
Must not smoke