I have been told by some that the first part of this profile is off-putting. It is supposed to be. They're general ground rules that can help you and I save some time.:
1. Do NOT use a "Hey There :)" or a simple click of the show interest button. It shows passing interest which means you are either picture surfing, or fishing. Please do me the courtesy of of putting in a little effort. It is an online dating site, not a video game.
2. If you do contact me, I will look at your profile. If there is a "duck face" in your pictures, especially combined with a cell camera in the mirror, I won't respond.
3. Please communicate. Let me know why you have decided to contact me. I'm not a mind reader or psychic--if I were, I'd have won several lotteries and be sipping whiskey and sodas on my own private island.
4. No offense, but I would prefer someone who has completed a four year bachelor's degree and/or is in a long term professional career.
The easiest thing I can put here is taste in music.
It truly runs a gamut with the exception of most country and hip hop/rap (except for some of the old school stuff). I'm partial to swing, classical, classic and southern rock, and anything that might have an "edge".
Hobbies - homebrewing (on occasion), hiking - especially when I get the time to do back country, martial arts. Having spent the last number of years working on my graduate degree, workouts have been put on hold, but that regimen is getting cranked up again. Also love cooking, especially central european. I've been trying to replicate some genuine schechuan after tasting the real thing on some overseas trips, but alas, I haven't been too successful to date--but I'll get there.
Interests - Making lists on sites like POF. Perusing old bookstores, maybe just picking up and taking a road trip to check something out that strikes my
fancy, sometimes hanging out to watch a good movie or read an interesting book. Love going to art museums if there is an interesting exhibit. A lot of other things that fit the "stuff" category. A friend of mine and I recently won the rookie award in a road rally, if that gives you any hints of the various "stuff".
I do have a nerdy side. Renfairs, ethnic celebrations, and other things along those lines I also enjoy--so if you're rolling your eyes just about now, I'm probably not the one for you.
Goals and aspirations? I'd love to become the dictator of a Latin American country, but since that is probably unlikely, I'm content to work in the business of creating things that make people happy and its neither toys or drugs. I do just fine, thank you.
Here is the "self" part:
I believe in working hard and playing hard. I value honesty and integrity--I live by it and I expect it in others. Although I do enjoy well written prose or poetry, I don't play games. Melodrama is not my style.
I am often pegged as the strong, silent type, and am fairly laid back. Don't mistake that as the profile of a beta male--I act when it matters.
Humor is important to me. Especially if you can laugh at yourself. If I do respond, expect humor to sneak into my response.
I'm not judgemental--I prefer to let someone's actions demonstrate who they are. Along with that, I don't think you really get to know someone until you've been in a situation with them where unicorns aren't farting rainbows.
I like to take time in building relationships. So if you're impatient, you best try somebody else. But once I decide to go "all in", I'm all in.
P.S. - I've been flaked on a couple of times.
It's not a big deal, its been happening at least since people thought Noah was weird for beckoning people to get on the Ark.
But look, you read through the dissertation above, take the time to contact me, are pleasant in our initial communication.
I'd rather have you say straight out you're having second thoughts or you decided are not interested rather than coming up with some story to "be nice".
I am an adult, please respect that.
I tend to be pretty reserved. Cup of coffee, maybe lunch.
The importance is to see if you can communicate.
Dates after that? Light, heavy, playful. Depends on how the chemistry flows.