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I believe that we are who we’re going to be by the time we’re seven years old. This is totally true for me. My rural childhood of sewing, crafting, playing by myself, and reading every book I could find pretty much sums up who I am now. I don’t need a lot of entertainment or constant stimulation to make me happy. I don’t have a TV, and would always prefer to go camping, nature exploring, or take adventurous drives over stilettos and nightclubs. Although, if given the right opportunity, I clean up very nicely.
I spend most of my time these days with my German Shorthair, running my business, and going to classes at UC Berkeley. I’m blessed with a very curious mind, and I’m gobbling up every minute of a unique opportunity I have to study at UCB later in life. I truly love learning, and I like to be intellectually stimulated by the people that I surround myself with. I’ll definitely do the same for you, as I enjoy the banter that comes along with two quick thinking minds.
My ideal life with you would be to maintain our personal space, separate interests, and own lives, while bringing together all that we each have to offer to make 1+1=more than 2. I believe that with healthy communication, positive outlooks, and some off the chart chemistry, potentially you and I will make a great match. I’m not looking for someone to romance me, but I would like you to be thoughtful, affectionate, responsible, very communicative, sexually comfortable, and at least have an acceptance for my creative side, if not super creative yourself.
Huge bonus if you love animals, like to cook, will eat my salads, don’t need your partner to wear make-up 24/7, like to snuggle on rainy mornings, enjoy literature and books more than TV, like to look at and discuss at all kinds of art, and can make me laugh on a regular basis.
Although I don’t care if you drink or eat junk food on occasion, I am pretty committed to a very healthy lifestyle. I grew up eating salads every day, and I still do that now. I find that I feel happier, more grounded, and ready to tackle each day when I do my yoga and maintain a healthy lifestyle. I’d like to find someone somewhat on that same path.
Also, I don’t care if you have children as long as you’re a good father and love them. It’ll probably make you more attractive.
Beyond mutual interests, political views, and any other things that tend to line up when trying to mate, chemistry is by far the most important. We can probably all agree that when you look into someone’s eyes and your heart starts to beat faster, you don’t really care what type of car they have or whether or not a certain artist is in their itunes library. As a friend of mine recently pointed out, “this whole love thing and how it happens—it’s very mysterious.”
To let oneself carry on passively is unthinkable.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
Casual. Daylight. Tea/coffee. A game of scrabble (if you can beat me, that might be a good indicator that a second date is on the horizon). A hike with my dog. An art walk. We're just window-shopping each other the first time around. The way I see it, no need for a high end date, romance, or pressure. That can all come later.