I love the science of attraction. The fact that we think we control it is super funny to me because we do not. It resides in some of the oldest places in our brains and whether we like it or not, we are at the mercy of what we find attractive. Now some people are better at faking it than others, women in LA who chase guys with money come to mind here, but that real attraction is there or it is not. This is both a good and bad situation. It is awesome when you are with someone that you are so attracted to that your brain is flooded with chemicals similarly to be on drugs, and it sucks when you like someone who has all the qualities that you are looking for except that one little thing- as a longtime guy friend put it- there is no way you want to ever be naked with this person. Then attraction sucks because no matter what you just can't sustain it for the long haul. But what is attraction really? Actually it is your brain fooling your body into procreating (or trying to) with someone who is very genetically dissimilar than you. That's it- attraction is nothing more than survival of the species. Not very romantic huh?
Attraction is interesting and a huge hurdle for online dating. No matter how hard you try you can talk and text for weeks but is about 20 seconds of meeting the person you will know for sure if you are attracted to them. I give up on online dating a lot for this reason. I need to be attracted to the person I am with and if I meet you at a random Starbucks I can tell before I get my venti coffee than if we meet on here and talk for days before actually meeting. It's is a complete catch 22 so unless I start spending my days hanging out at random Starbucks hoping to catch the eye of my soulmate, I will dabble in online dating. At least until I get frustrated and then the Starbucks plan starts looking better and better. LOL
Good luck in your search for attraction and more.
HAHA. This stupid site made me put a personality. I chose princess. Where else do you get to check the box that says princess other than POF? What a funny question.