I am a solider with the National Guard. I have deployed twice; once to Iraq and once to Afghanistan. I do not see another deployment anytime soon but that doesn't mean that there isn't a possibility of one in the foreseeable future. If I am to deploy again then whoever I am with must understand that she will have to accept the fact that she will have to make sacrifices as well and that it could mean considerable time apart as well potential changes to our way of life both during and post deployment. I state all this because my previous deployments and my desire to serve in the military led to the issues that results in the demise of a relationship with someone that I thought would be my wife one day. So if you do not think that you could handle this please find another, I will not be offend by that decision since behind every airman, sailor, marine, or solider is an even stronger partner.
I am a Christian; even if my life may not always exemplify the highest standard of that title, it is who I am and strive to be. You see I understand that my faith is a struggling and painful maturing process which includes both failures and successes, and not just a shiny moniker that I wear to make my Grandma smile. I would want the same in a partner and would hope that I wouldn't settle for anything else, no matter the attraction or chemistry. So if this is not important to or just something that you simply profess then maybe it would be better to look elsewhere with the best wishes in your search from me.
I have never been married by my choice or by His grace, nor have do I have any kids. I am not adverse to either and actually desire both but I just haven't found the woman to fulfill that desire. Though I have accepted the fact that kids may not be in her desire or that she may already have kids, which only means I will spoil my nephews as I currently do or I will spoil hers. . Now I do enjoy a good craft beer and I agree with whoever said; "Beer is proof that God loves us and wants us happy." but that isn't to say I won't enjoy a nice glass of wine on the right occasion. Even though at the moment, I am currently on a hiatus from alcohol and several other things in the attempt to accelerate my recovery from an injury that hinder me from doing something I love for over a year.
That being, I love to run, especially trails but if running isn't your thing then how about a hike through the woods or a walk in the park? Understand that I am not an uber health or exercise crazy, but I do enjoy the benefits of a healthy and active lifestyle. Plus, everyone knows the fresh air and vegetables are good for you!
I love my family and even though they might be quite odd to some, they are nonetheless loved my all and can't wait for me to add to the family, any suggestions because I was thinking a puppy.
I received an email telling me that I must think that "my poop don't stink", which couldn't be further from the truth because it does! I just believe in being straight forward and transparent with people and don't see the point in playing games when it comes to relationships. I am flawed but I don't know of anyone that isn't, do you?
Now the "what am I looking for" portion of this craziness...
Sadly, I wish I had thought of this but its still so true...."I want to be your favorite hello and your hardest goodbye"
I am not looking for someone to complete me or for me to complete since only the object of my faith is capable of that, but rather someone that I can accompany and that will accompany me on exploring and experiencing this adventure called life.
Confident enough in herself and her accolades yet humble enough not to stumble over either.
Driven and active in the pursuit of her goals yet have the wisdom to understand that some may have to be sacrificed to become the catalyst for one's she may have never imagined for herself.
Knowledge of the world, both old and new yet with an insatiable lust to never stop learning.
An imagination fueled with a fearless mischief that will respect yet explore, excite, and entertain in a way to better her as well those and the world around her.
A heart with no bounds and so aware that it not only sees the needs of those close to it but also those less fortune that it may not know at all.
Accept the fact that we may have aged but has always cherished and held onto the ageless wonder of a child. Because she knows that no matter what season of life we are in; that there will always be puddles to splash, sandcastles to build, leaves to dive into, and snow angels to create .
Most importantly, she will help me live out a quote I learned many years ago from a man wiser than me..."The greatest tragedy in life is not what happens to you but rather what you miss...miss nothing!"
Then one day we can sit back and laugh as we say "remember when we..."
I don't think there is a formula nor a script for a good date, but rather just a setting where we can talk and get to know each other beyond POF's mandatory requirements. Also, you probably need to have a refreshing drink to quench your thirst after reading through the whole Encyclopedia Britannica which was my description...lol