“You know what the most common insanity today is? It’s the idea that love will just come to you even if you just do nothing – Oh the right one will come along, it’ll happen, you just wait! Well, who the hell came up with that? How many couples do you know…how many friends do you have who can say that the right one just came along? You talk to most people and they’ll tell you the “right” one slipped away! My point…ask anyone what they want the most…it’s love.” - Ally McBeal
I'm not looking for perfection in a man, but I'm looking for someone with a zest for life. You set high goals for yourself and work hard to achieve them. You command respect. You look people in the eyes when you speak. You see your stalled car as a great chance to catch up on email before the tow truck arrives. You'd consider taking a fun class with me no matter what it is because you know with "me" it will be fun. You'll enlist me to put address labels on mailers for your new business and know I will do whatever I can to help you fulfill your dreams. You can find an hour each day to do some form of exercise because you want to look good and be healthy. You have respect for women, honesty, compassion and empathy, which to me are turn ons (along with nicely muscled arms!) You are not boring. (Challenge me. I like a little bit of thrill seeking sometimes!) Someone who has (or has had) and likes having animals/pets (and doesn't mind hair on him sometimes. I have lint rollers!) as I will always have pets in my life. I like kids (I don't have my own) but if you have them, that's fine. You're okay with going to a movie alone, but you know you'd have more fun afterwards trying to quote a line to me from the movie we just saw than quoting it to yourself! :) You delight in the physical and emotional aspects of a relationship and know what it is to be completely accepted and you're finally ready for the real deal.
I have a good sense of humor (and want that in a partner also...) and I will tease you if I like you in a fun way. I "get" men...don't always understand them...but I get why some of you do what you do. Others I've come to realize are way out in left field somewhere...and no one needs those kind! :) I'm a fun, kind, caring and honest woman and I believe in living the golden rule and respecting others. I believe we are meant to "pair" here in life...and life is better spent with someone special.
I love movies, plays, live music (was a pro singer for over 20 years), sunsets, walking or hiking, lakes and rivers, the outdoors, love animals, (yes, I'm another single middle aged woman with cats. What a surprise!) exploring new places, history (bit of a Civil War buff), reading a great story and writing one too, having fun and laughing together because without laughter life would be pretty dull. :) Would love to travel more! Last but not least, I believe in people striving to be the best they can be for themselves. Whatever that is for you. I'm excited for the fun and safety that comes with love. Other relationships exist, but our's will be unique. :)
FYI: Please note... as I have had so many problems with much younger men contacting me looking for a hook up. I'm not interested, please do not contact me. I date age appropriate. Thank you for respecting my wishes.
First date...you know, the sky is really the limit here. I think you need to meet briefly the first time to see if there's anything there.... meaning "chemistry" which is a strange cat EVEN if you have hit it off writing or on the phone. If there is something there then by all means let's proceed. I will say this though...I do like a man who puts some planning into a first date and makes it fun. Best way to impress me!