Online dating. Hmmm. Personally, I actually really miss the "glance across the crowded room." Ever wonder why it doesn't seem to happen much anymore to you? Because there are too many other singles in the room intercepting that glance before it can get to you!
Let's see...I'm not looking for perfection in a man, but I AM looking for someone with a zest for life. You command respect. You look people in the eyes when you speak. You'd consider taking a fun class with me no matter what it is because you know with "me" it will be fun.You can find an hour each day to do some form of exercise because you want to look good and be healthy. You have respect for women, honesty, compassion and empathy, which to me are turn ons (along with nicely muscled arms!) You are intelligent and not boring. (Challenge me. I like a little bit of thrill seeking sometimes!) Someone who has (or has had) and likes having animals/pets (and doesn't mind hair on him sometimes. I have lint rollers!) as I will always have pets in my life. I like kids (I don't have my own) but if you have them, that's fine. You delight in the physical and emotional aspects of a relationship and know what it is to be completely accepted and you're finally ready for the real deal. I believe we are meant to "pair" here in life...and life is better spent with someone special.
I have a good sense of humor (and want that in a partner also...) and I will tease you if I like you in a fun way. I "get" men...don't always understand them...but I get why some of you do what you do. Others I've come to realize are way out in left field somewhere...and no one needs those kind! :) I'm a fun, kind, caring and honest woman and I believe in living the golden rule and respecting others. However, I'll admit bad spelling is one of my pet peeves, (there's such a thing as spell check fellas...you're trying to sell yourself here...just like on your resume when looking for a job!) not being able to construct a simple sentence, and also not putting much into your profile to let women know who you are exactly. Men may just look at pictures online to decide whether they are going to email you...but we women...check out the profile and what you have to say and your level of intelligence also. Intelligence is a turn on for me guys!
I love movies, plays, live music (was a pro singer for over 20 years), sunsets, walking or hiking, lakes and rivers, the outdoors, love animals, (yes, I'm another single middle aged woman with cats. What a surprise!) exploring new places, history (bit of a Civil War buff), reading a great story and writing one too, having fun and laughing together because without laughter life would be pretty dull. :) Would love to travel more! Last but not least, I believe in people striving to be the best they can be for themselves. Whatever that is for you. I'm excited for the fun and safety that comes with love. Other relationships exist, but our's will be unique. :) Oh and since I think this factors in with ALL men (here's some honesty!) for those of you who are nervous that a woman your own age isn't going to desire sex any longer... as I've been told before that "this is what happened with my last wife" (could be several reasons why that happened!) ...THAT isn't the case with me. IF I'm into you, that won't be an issue! :) Thanks for stopping by!
PS- I still keep getting much younger (20s & 30s) guys contacting me who obviously want only a "physical" thing with me. Although I'm flattered, (to a certain extent) my guess would be it's probably because women their own age are putting pressure on them to get married, have kids and they aren't ready for that. But they feel they can get the physical (and perhaps learn something from an attractive middle-ager! LOL!) but not have to worry about the relationship pressures with an older woman. I'm not looking to waste time. Time is passing by too fast now as it is. Not interested!
First date...you know, the sky is really the limit here. I think you need to meet briefly the first time to see if there's anything there.... meaning "chemistry" which is a strange cat EVEN if you have hit it off writing or on the phone. If there is something there then by all means let's proceed. I will say this though...I do like a man who puts some planning into a first date and makes it fun. Best way to impress me! And if you give me your number (after getting to know each other a little bit on the site) and I call you and leave a message for you...please make the effort to call me back in a somewhat timely manner. It will show me you are at least serious in getting to know me. Thanks!