I believe a solid relationship it built over time and spending time together. Not overnight and not after 2 or 3 dates. Am I the only one who believes this anymore? This online dating stuff, well dating in general continues to baffle the hell out of me, seems to be a lot of fakes, flakes and truly self-absorbed types, but since I work a lot and my kids are a priority and the fact that I don’t go out to places (bars) where you can meet singles that often...so here I am still giving this a shot.
At this point in my life I would like to meet someone nice, SANE, fun and not full of drama to hang out with, spend some fun times and laughs with and just get to know. Low key, not a lot of pressure, I take life one day and one moment at a time and try to make the most of them. I have the same approach when it comes to dating. One day and one moment at a time and enjoy each moment to its fullest. Yes I do have my dreams and aspirations but I am grounded enough to know they won’t come over night. I don’t rush into what I call “Instant relationships”, it takes me time getting to know someone and building up the trust and the feelings needed for a serious and committed relationship, So for now looking for someone fun to hang out with and get to know.... if something grows from that and becomes long term or happily ever after then fantastic. Being upfront though, I have no intention on spending the rest of my life in Redding or Shasta County so if you are tied, bound and have your heart set on spending your life here.... I am not the guy for you. I will be moving within 3 years max.
I am the father of 3 amazing, beautiful and talented kids. The oldest two are out on their own and my youngest son is 16 yrs old and lives with his mom but I am still very involved with them (the kids not the ex lol). I am a realist, I don't think I am ALL THAT; nor do I have a big ego. I am me, what you see is what you get. I don’t pretend to be anything or something I am not. But I know that I am a nice, caring, loving, good-hearted, genuine & respectful man. I am honestly probably one of the nicest and caring people you will meet once you get in.... getting in may take some time. I believe in honesty and open communication. I am and always have been a very deep thinker. I am intuitive, inquisitive, contemplative and reflective. And while I do have a serious side and I can be serious when needed I am much more of a fun loving, playfully sarcastic, goofy at times and just playful in general person.I love sports and the outdoors. I like to golf, go hiking, fishing, really want to start kayaking. Photography is a passion of mine. I am very much into landscape and nature photography (Especially Seascapes and waterfalls) so taking road trips where there is some good scenery is always good. I like quiet nights at home relaxing on my patio, BBQ's, talking and just kicking back maybe watching a movie. I have been single for a while, mostly by choice and not having met the right one. I don’t serial date, don’t date more than one person at a time but I also won’t date someone just for the sake of dating or just to have someone in my life. I would rather be alone for the right reasons than with someone for the wrong reasons. Once someone wins my heart they can expect a loyal, faithful, respectful, caring, supportive, fun, playful, romantic and affectionate man, friend, lover, companion and partner in this crazy thing called life.
Most important qualities I look for in someone are complete honesty and integrity, someone who has some humility to them. If you have ever been called a flake or flakey on more than two occasions please pass me by, I have a general rule of thumb about people’s behavior if it is bad. Once is a fluke, twice is a coincidence and three times is a pattern. I am not big on second chance when it comes to flakes and phony people. Someone who likes to laugh and have fun whether it is out and about or cuddled up watching a movie at home. And lastly, physical attraction is just as important to me as a mental connection. Physically I notice the eyes, lips and smile first. Just sayin’.
Turn on's: A sweet, caring, affectionate personality. A warm and engaging smile, eyes you can get lost in, a soft sexy voice, kissable lips and nice legs in torn or holy jeans.;-)
Turn off's: Self-indulgent, self-absorbed behavior. Arrogance, Clingy, Demanding, Ultra Needy, these are all truly unattractive qualities to me.
Well if you are still reading this kudos to you. Most don't make it this far. Hopefully this will show that I am a man who knows what he is looking for and also can carry on a conversation. If I do not respond to your email please don’t take it personal, it's not I just know what I like, what I am attracted to, and what I am looking and waiting for. Would you rather I lie or mis-lead you? There is no need for nasty and hateful emails. I wish you all the best on your search and lastly... while yes I do live in Redding... I am not opposed to moving and relocating if Ms. Wonderful decides to ever reveal herself to me. I only plan on being for Redding 3 more years at the latest regardless.