Would you believe that you are not really looking for a nice guy, just a guy who is nice to you. You obviously dont want an a**hole either, unless he is an a**hole to people that are bothering you, there is a difference. We all want to be happy but I think the truth becomes vague.
We have our kids believe in Santa Claus as we once did, but nobody ever remembers who told them Santa Claus wasnt real. I guarantee that it wasn't your parents that told you and I guarantee that you will not or were not the one to tell your children or nieces or nephews. Even as kids, once we realized there was no Santa Claus we kinda felt something funny at first, but by the next day we got a kick out of watching younger kids, siblings, ect. still enjoying the myth. Have you ever met someone who was upset that they once believed in Santa Claus? Me neither.
Here is the BIG SECRET about THE TRUTH and its not that it will set you free. If the truth is something that makes you feel good then you love it, if the truth hurts, it only hurts today, tomorrow you will appreciate it.
Be honest about what you really want and let it happen;
Look around your workplace, there are a handful of men that you would not have given a second thought about previously to working there and there are a few you found visually stimulating right off the bat. Now that you have been there for a while some of them are still in the same "catagory" and two are not...you know which two. Since you have gotten to know them by now, two have switched catagories. They are the same, but since you have gotten to know them, its your views of them that has changed.And since I dont work with you, you have already decided which "catagory" I am in, so I thank you in advance..
This internet thing is just another form of meeting people, it should not be a difficult process. If you find that you want to know something, just ask, I will tell you the truth.