Hello, all. If you are reading this, I am flattered to be within your focus. I am an open-book so to speak & admire people who are receptive to that and also candor themselves to some degree. The whole Catfish Epidemic has gotten a little out of hand. What I mean by that is this; I would hope the objective of the show is to raise awareness to some who fall victim to catfishing. The problem is that it's publicized in a way that meeting anyone online will produce ill-results, which isn't necessarily true. I too have my reservations pertaining to online dating but haven't yet fell to being cynical. It definitely has its peeks & valleys if one indulges in it long enough but doesn't everything? Catfishing has been going on long before online-dating. If someone portrays someone they're not can essentially happen in any arena of dating, friendship, etc. Sometimes people date someone for months/years and eventually things change right before their eyes. That sounds like a deeper version of catfishing if anything just off the strength of the time already invested. At least with catfishing, those culprits are busted on sight, I think it hurts a little more when a man or woman is the victim of domestic violence or infidelity when s/he has done everything by the book only to get bamboozled. People change, we just must make sure that change is in a positive light. They say the best way to not get your heart broken is to act as if you don't have one. Though this logic might be true to some extent, it isn't healthy. I am not a passenger to that train of thought. Clever though...Okay, now let's get to the good part haha
My hobbies can literally range from taking someone out to an elegant play in the city, all the way to laying at home with someone I care about watching shows we DVR-ed the evening before. I have simple taste but I always do well at surprising anyone in my circle. I am pursuing my master's degree while working as a supervisor at Barnes & Noble. I have an intense passion to write and can always express myself through words. I help take care of my 9 year-old niece when I am capable of doing so because I feel kids with a strong supporting cast are a gust of potential, for lack of a better term. Her birthday was 12-12-12 so I took her to red lobster, no surprise there. I have always had an eye for positive movements & enjoy any form of art. I am an aspiring novelist & work on it almost daily. Most of my material is geared toward the concept of love or even love interrupted/lost. So in other words, I am working on Romance novel(s)...I sharpen my craft every chance I get because I am determined to be the best writer I can be. My mind is infested with creativity; I often feel I suffer from imagination if that makes sense. My mind has a thousand post-its pressed up against its walls. Though it is tough to channel at times, I wouldn't trade it for the universe. Ambition shouldn't be bottled up or drummed out of us. I'm simply being myself, in all fairness everyone else is taken so why not be me. I am a big fan of poetry & have excelled at it over the years. It's definitely a form of expression for me & often therapeutic. I love reading/hearing the work of others just as much, if not more. My music taste is very broad and I never limit myself to one particular genre or rhythm per se - I love being open-minded and cultivating my curiosity. I enjoy Lauryn Hill, Miguel, Weeknd, John Mayer, Joe Budden, Vivian Green, Coldplay, Kendrick Lamar, Lupe, Maxwell, John Coltrane, Wale, Groover Washington, Adele etc. (See what i mean smh) My movie preference is similar in the sense that i enjoy multiple genres. One day I can watch Love Jones & the next I can watch The Town then end with Superbad. So it just depends in the mood i guess...My main goal this year and also the years to come is to work toward being successful and leading a life of respect, and also being a better man in life in all facets. I am still pursuing my masters in grad school but recently I have opted to take a break because I am polishing many parts of my writings and so my work experience flourishes more. Plus, a job that will finish paying for school and compliments my ambition is ideal so never stop grinding my friends. I am always searching for stability & to lead a life where I'm able to obtain happiness as well as meaning.
I feel that casually dating & finding the right woman will only enhance my life at this point. I'm confident I can do the same for whoever enters my life as well. And if things didn't workout as we once expected, I never mind gaining new friendships. I have somewhat of a type A personality if that makes sense. I also am very passionate about things I learn to love. So I must be careful what I embrace because I am an addict for certain things. This isn't necessarily a negative thing, I love it. Just must stay conscious The greatest skill in life is to learn to love without conditions & to be able to trust without suspicions...
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
A first date to me seems to flow smoothly when I can go out with a woman who doesn't mind doing something fun yet simple. I actually like doing something typical like Panera Bread or a small lunch and walk in a park if the weather permits. If we cannot link in the afternoon I have no problem with doing something in the evening. As long as we both have ample time to showcase our personalities & also to see if we have good compatibly. I'm open to do various things whether it's late night bowling, appetizers at Chillis, Ice Cream & stroll, etc. As long as my date is happy & feels respected, I have no complaints. I just ask her allow me to be spontaneous and I promise a good time, a thrill if you will. Btw I admire a woman who concentrates on being herself & drama-free. Once upon a time I wore my heart on my sleeve, now I find myself looking for reasons to wear a sleeve over my heart in attempts to avoid people from coming within arm's reach. I promised myself I wouldn't fall victim to previous hardship dealing with love, therefore I continue to be myself and know that true loyalty & love still exist. So in other words, I'm now learning to take the sleeve off. No one wants to have an otter box on their heart. But a privacy screen compatible for our emotions does sound appealing.