I am looking for a unicorn, just like the rest of you, eh? (wink, wink, nudge,nudge) So, allow me to describe my unicorn:
1. A man--not just a male by gender, but a real MAN, who's strong and self-assured (self-assured enough to be comfortable enough to also be sensitive, vulnerable, and flawed; in other words, human);
2. He has integrity and morals, without being uptight, narrow-minded, self-righteous, or judgmental; sincere and honorable (an even balance of honesty and diplomacy);
3. He is respectful and considerate, capable of kindness and empathy (seeks first to understand, then to be understood, etc.);
4. He doesn't pretend he's perfect, and is comfortable with imperfections, but, that said, he isn't content with mediocrity; he understands imperfections are opportunities to evolve, and that improvement is a never-ending process, rather than merely a destination;
5. He is intellectual and is truly stimulated by intellectual growth (a lifelong learner), but, though he certainly takes pride in his intelligence, he nonetheless tempers it with humility, lest he indulge a superiority complex;
6. He's shrewd, but not cynical--as a lifelong learner, he is open-minded, so he can be judiciously skeptical without being negative or perpetually suspicious (always expecting the worst of everyone);
7. He is successful--not aimless or (in keeping with #4), content with mediocrity;
8. He's generous with his resources--be they material or non-physical (i.e. his time, himself, etc.); he understands that benevolence is its own reward;
9. He's a practical hedonist (just because he's not greedy doesn't mean he is above serving his own pleasures); to expand on this, he is neither cheap, nor extravagant--he enjoys the finer things without being excessive or strictly materialistic;
10. He is mature, yet not always stuffy and serious--can be playful and has a rich, even diverse, sense of humor.
11. He is humble, and he is noble;
12. He likes kids. Though this may fall at the end of this list, it is, by no means, of least importance; on the contrary, this is the least flexible of all the aforementioned desired qualities. He need not melt at the sight of cherub-cheeked babies, or ooh and ahh over Anne Geddes photographs, or even be a father himself, but he must, above all else, have the utmost regard for the fact that I AM a mother. He must be completely secure with the immutable certainty that I will always love my kids more than anyone or anything, and their needs will, 100% of the time, come first. Frankly, any man who could abide anything less from a woman with children would fail to earn either my respect, or my affection.