I correct spelling errors in old journals, I know the Lovesong of J. Alfred Prufrock by heart and I've never dyed my hair. I've lived in Spain twice. I'm a kindred spirit, an adventurer, a dreamer, a fighter. I'm loyal, ambitious and hard-working. Most days I feel blessed and when I don't I eat ice cream.
Most nights you can find me playing beach volleyball at the pier, working on poetry, philosophizing with friends, swimming, biking, hot tubbing (which is an important part of my life), painting, listening to live music or teaching myself piano. I love surfing and being outside. I'm always singing and I play a little guitar. My favorite musicians are mostly singer-songwriters from the 70's: Joni Mitchell, Simon & Garfunkel, Johnny Cash and Cat Stevens. I just fell in love with the song Clay Pigeons by Blaze Foley. Have been playing it non-stop.
I have learned to be kind to and patient with myself and in doing so I've become more open and compassionate with others; plus, life is more fun that way. I don't know much about Zen Buddhism but I identify with what little I am learning-- taking an inquisitive stance rather than a reactive one, learning to trust my intuition rather than basing my actions on arbitrary labels such as good and bad.
My job is more of a calling than a job-- it's an important part of who I am. I'm an individual and couples therapist and I have my own practice. I'm really proud of the work I do and of my wonderful team. I haven't had any formal training in the subjects of business and marketing and they have become unexpected passions. I enjoy teaching my team as well; it keeps me sharp and I love that I can be myself with them and how we share laughter and challenge each other clinically.
I see my work with clients as a spiritual practice. As I help guide clients through the most difficult times in their lives, I am challenged to grow, learn about myself and ferreting out my blind spots. No matter how old I am, I know I will always be devoted to the process of growth and I strive to be like my grandmother in that way. She is 91-years-old and she takes Spanish and painting classes, swims every day and is always striving to learn about herself and cultivate inner peace.
Physical affection and intimacy are very important to me in a relationship. If you've read the "5 Languages of Love" my top two are physical affection and quality time, with words of affirmation next. Those are the primary ways I send and receive love. I see in my own relationships and in the couples with whom I work, the importance of speaking the same language.
I'm tall (5'10) and have an hourglass figure. I'm curvy (in the non-euphemistic sense) so unless you like stick thin girls, you won't be disappointed. I prefer tall (the taller the better), lean guys but when I have a strong emotional connection I find myself physically attracted to a wide range of people.
I'm fascinated by neuroscience and physics, so if you're into that stuff, let's dance.
Confidence, humor, intelligence and a sense of adventure are probably the factors I find myself most attracted to. The things that are most important to me in a partnership are chemistry, a shared sense of humor and feeling like I can be myself. I tend to fall for guys who have a creative and philosophical side.
I picture myself traveling and having lots of spontaneous road trips and outdoor adventures with my partner and maybe even taking up spearfishing again (Oh yeah, by the way, I spearfish).
I find I can learn a lot more from a few minutes face to face with someone than by exchanging lots of emails, so I'm always up for a casual meet up sooner than later to see if there's a spark.