Happy new year!!!
As I reflect on the year I'm saddened that I spent another passage of the new year alone, but I also maintain hope for what the new year may hold. To me, as a single, new year's eve is my toughest day because I see the passage of the year to be a milestone of a couple. Faith in my God, I have. Family, I have, Friends, I have. What I don't have is that one special guy to share life with. Life has ups and downs, and none of us are perfect, and not one of us gets to our age without some 'baggage', though I don't care for that word. I've laughed plenty, I've cried plenty, and have scars to show for it. But, I see those scars as a conversation piece showing how we can overcome many different things in our lives. They are not to be buried and ignored as if they never happened, nor are they something to dwell on. A scar means that we have healed, though the reminder remains. I've learned much from each life building event, from my own and others not so great decisions, and have developed a tender compassionate heart from them. I feel the most alive are when I get to share a piece of my life with another, and somehow that sharing helps the listener to grow and perhaps even learn to avoid some of the stupid decisions I've made in life or set healthy boundaries to avoid consequences from decisions of others.
While I'm ultimately looking for a life time relationship, I know this will not happen overnight, nor with just anyone. It takes time to become friends, fall in love, and decide we have what it takes to stay together thru whatever life throws at us.
I tend to be a down to earth gal, a bit conservative in most things. I'm a country girl looking for a life long relationship where we watch each other's backs. I'm financially, emotionally, spiritually secure. I like straight forward, it helps us to both know where we are. I value peace and humor, though mine is a bit on the dry side. ;) I find humor in most things and I laugh easily.
Things I've discovered that work for me:
1 You need a relationship with Jesus
2 have a kind heart
3 are open and honest
4 able to laugh, have some fun and dance in some form
5 able to have intelligent conversation
6 able to do active things together, balanced with quiet times
7 actually single and can take the time to meet and get to know each other face to face
8 able to control your anger
9 When the time comes, able to commit to a life long monogamous relationship
10 expect all this in return ;)
ps, anyone else having trouble with the one word explanations of who we are? I'm many things, but not really only any one of those things. Perhaps it would be multi facet?