Let's get a beer?
I have tried this a few times and it always tends to go the same route. It seems folks come here so they can control how much of themselves they have to reveal or to try and find something ideal. I'm not really an all or nothing kind of guy. When you meet people organically, they get to see a lot of different sides to your personality that you can't manage with carefully selected photos or by describing your ideal sense of self in text.
I get that. I am probably guilty of doing some of those things. I just don't think there has to be so much pressure for everything to click right away. I'm cool with a slow build and, really, getting to know the other person is almost always the best part of a romantic relationship.
Things to know: I give excellent high fives, have a sweet pup named Otto, and am entirely uninterested in what's hip. I go at my own pace, which is usually kind of slow, and I like ugly music. I almost never lie and try to mean all of the things that I say. Being insincere is one of the worst feelings I've ever experienced and I try my best to avoid it.
It's hard to get a good read on here but I'm pretty good. Now, let's get that beer. =]
I think a first date, especially when it comes to online dating, is a little presumptuous. In my experience, online chemistry doesn't always translate in person. It's awful to have to spend an entire night with someone you don't know and increasingly come to dislike. haha. I think the best approach is to get a drink or coffee/early lunch. Those can end almost as soon as you want them to and there's no obligation to go to a movie afterward or finish hiking a 3 hour trail.