I have a few not serious about dating friends on this site who talked me into checking it out. I have no expectations on the direction I want things to go except that I love meeting new people and trying new things. Where it goes from there depends on a lot of factors. That being said, my heart is open. I love sports (Niners and A's all the way), I love my job (no really, I do, ridiculously love it, but I'm not a workaholic...balance is key). This summer I am looking forward to my whitewater rafting trip with friends, watching one of my besties get married in Oahu, running another 5K (my second, for fun, not trying to be a marathon runner)and spending time with close friends and family. I don't love golf but I own an awesome set of clubs and it's something me and my little brother do together a few times a month. I'm downsizing my crew to those nearest and dearest to me so I can get more quality time in and I'm looking to sneak in some new VIPs I can learn and laugh with (if you only surround yourself with people just like you then you're gonna end up missing out on a lot of cool stuff). Why am I still single? I used to date "safe" - long distance that could only go so far or the relationship that would never go anywhere anyway. I know how to stand on my own and am ready to explore sharing my space and myself with the right person.
There are so many different directions a first date can go in and so many ways a first date can be fabulous or terrible that this is a tough one. I'd definitely want to do something that would involve a lot of time to talk without having to yell to hear each other but also some sort of activity so even if there was no connect it would be a fun few hours together and a shared experience. It's an opportunity for the guy to be creative and show off a skill or share something personal about himself but it doesn't have to be a high pressure situation.