First of all...
Just because I take care of myself and take pride in my appearance that does not make me a guido, player, a womanizer, a user or a heart breaker. In addition, it does not mean I'm stuck-up or I think who the F' I am. I am humble enough to know I'm not better than anyone else... but I'm also wise enough to know I'm different from the rest. Now, the reason I do take care of myself is for ME for health reason. I was born with a abnormal vascular system in and around my heart... so I take care of my body to make sure I get the most out of life. I also take care of myself and manicure my appearance for my career.
So don't send me random messages saying I look like a heart breaker. Because I have never broken a single heart. I was in 3 relationships my whole life and intimate with only those 3 women. One of which I was in love with and we were in a horrible accident and she was fatally injured and died in my arms before EMS arrived. So I am the one who ended up with the broken heart. So please... if you don't have something nice to say, simply skip my profile. There are plenty of creeps on this site looking to play games... so go message them. ok?
TEXTING... I still have a flip phone... yes Im a dinosaur when it comes to my phone I know. But it does what it is supposed to do... make and receive calls. I can text to phone from my AOL account... but I dont text much. Maybe you would be the reason I will go and get an iphone... Our first date?
With that said...
If you are reading this far, then you may have some slight interest in me, so I will try to tell you a little more about myself. Im confident but not conceited. Im respectful and courteous. I know that there is a right time and place for everything and sending raunchy messages via an online dating site is not something I would do. I learned at an early age how NOT to treat a woman. My Father... He's NOT my hero... but he is the reason I am the man I am today. My father (sad as it may be) gave me the perfect example of what a man should not be. He was an abuser and womanizer. So Im proudly totally the opposite of what he was.
I am very caring and considerate. I volunteer working with terminally ill children as well as on the board of a local Autism Chapter. Yes... I love kids!! If you have them or want them... its fine with me. Kid's don't scare me. I am also on the board of directors for the Alzheimer's Association. I love giving back to the community and helping those that need the help. Sometimes the help only consists of giving a child a hug or sitting down for an hour listening to a grandfather tell me about his grand kids or how he loves his pond and all the fish in it. Does it make me a better person more so than the next guy because I do these things? Maybe, maybe not. But it makes me and the ones I touch feel better.... that's what counts.
I like to think I have a nice smile. Im not a health nut and will enjoy a big fat juicy cheeseburger and order of fries... but I also take care of my body and I will eat those types of foods in moderation. Speaking of foods... I love Chinese, Japanese, Thai, Indian, Sri Lanka and any other Asian / Indian type of cuisine. BTW... I'm an awesome cook! I love cooking... I went to school for it at the Culinary Institute of America (CIA).
I love to write song lyrics and poetry.... I have been writing since I was a teenager. Yes some things have been published and probably a song or two you heard on the radio. I like all sorts of music and can listen to just about anything, even reggae and country music. :) Im Italian and Puerto Rican. Oh yea.. I have nice teeth... and clean fingernails!!! And get this... I actually have nails. I don't bite them down to nubs like some guys do :)
In closing I like to think i have a good head on my shoulders. Look at this little essay... proper spelling, grammar leading caps and punctuation marks! :) So looks, brawn, brains and a personality! WOW... Is it possible I may be the almost perfect package? I say almost because no one is perfect, but some are closer than others. ;)
Oh did I mention that I love Jelly beans too?? Jelly Belly Brand is my favorite then Brach's Jelly Beans. Here's a little hint for you... Jelly Belly Jelly Beans... They make a great first date gift (Hint).... and help to make a great first impression. LOL You can find em in your local store or on Jelly belly's website. They even have gift cards you can order and email it to me LOL. ;)
Why am I here? Why am I single?
These can both be answered at the same time. I have been single for almost 3 years , since the accident. I chose to remain single as to take time and heal. She died in my arms, so while I had the chance to say Goodbye I was not ready to let her go. That took some time to deal with and accept her untimely death. No... Im not looking to replace her or compare anyone to her. She was who she was and I know that. I have accepted her loss and I have grown and learned from it. I learned life is too short to not want to appreciate it and live each day as if it were my last... because one day it will be. Life is precious and we all take it for granted. Im trying not to.
During the past 35 months I concentrated on building my business and expanding it to other major cities. Now with offices in NY, Hollywood and Miami, we are soon becoming the elite VIP & Dignitary Security (bodyguards) Firm in the entertainment industry. With spending countless of hours building my business and traveling, I did not have time to take care of myself in regards to making me happy. Yes Im happy my life is going well, business is good, etc. but I dont have someone to share my life with. I dont have that special someone to show my version of life and love with..
So I came on this site after I heard someone talking about meeting a really nice guy on here.
What am I looking for?
OMG Do I even have enough room to type what Im looking for? I like to say that Im simple. I dont have a lot of requirements. Most of those requirements are emotional and not physical. So here we go: (See Below)
There are a few things I look for in a woman... and while there are only a few things... you would think it would be easy to find lots of women with these qualities. NOT! Just as it is not that easy for you ladies to find them in a guy. But one day I hope to find them again. HONESTY, TRUST, UNDERSTANDING, COMMUNICATION & COMMITMENT.
I saved the most important for last.
FRIENDSHIP - This is the one that most overlook when meeting someone new that they are interested in dating. There's the physical attraction a few dates and then sex and then what? Most relationships fizz down after the few times they are intimate. Even marriages. That's because they are missing this one important ingredient. Look at anyone who has been married for 40 + years. They are still very much in love. And if you heard how they met, it was not at a club or a bar. Most met as H.S. Sweethearts... which started as H.S. Friends.
I believe all relationships, be it good friends or lovers... all relationships must start with planting a seed of friendship. And soon that seed will sprout. If taken care of that seedling can grow into something amazing. But you have to be careful. You have to have all the ingredients for it grow properly. It can grow into something beautiful... like the most beautiful flower you ever saw. Remember... Flowers are born to amuse, inspire and delight. But they are short lived. Some last for a single day, some a couple of days or couple of weeks. Some as long as a season. None last forever. So what to do?
Take that seed of friendship... plant it in a foundation rich with Honesty, Trust, Understanding, Communication and Commitment. When it sprouts take care of it. Nurture it. Do things to help it grow. It will grow into something big and strong... like a tree... with its branches and leaves reaching to the sky and sun above. Thats how your arms should reach out to each other for love. Sure a tree does get caught in stormy weather. Winds blow hard... leaves blow away... branches sometimes brake. But its only temporary. Leaves will come again, new branches grow. And the tree is beautiful again. That's what love should be. It should be able to rebound from most storms it encounters.
PHYSICALLY / LOOKS - I want someone who I will feel confident walking with and she should feel the same about me and we compliment each other. I would love to find someone who looks nice in jeans. :) - Im not into very big women or very dark women, Im sorry... nothing against them and they are beautiful... but Im just not attracted to them.
So that is what I am looking for in a woman. I want someone that will be my best friend and be the person that steals my breath away just with the thought of her. Someone who can be the roots of my tree... making me stand proud and strong... and I would be no less for her.