Apologies, but I feel that this needs to be stated. While I am not nearly so closed-minded as to say that I would never date someone who doesn't want kids, I would have to say that your chances are severely limited.
Sorry to all who found that to be off-putting right up front, but, based on the responses I've been getting, it has become necessary to highlight that point.
One other thing that has come up recently: someone actually asked me if I didn't need to update my preferences, as it said that I wanted to have kids, yet I had a child that was over 18. Please allow me to explain. I have a daughter who is almost 20. She was raised by her mother, but our relationship has made me realise that I missed out on so many times with my child, and I would love another opportunity to have those, if it's possible.
Who would I like to meet? Well, blahblahblah smartattractiveactive. All the usual? Fine, I'll accept an amalgam of Supergirl, a female iteration of Stephen Hawking, and Gabrielle Reece (does anyone even remember who she is anymore?) Seriously, it sounds arrogant for anyone to sit there and talk about how perfect some girl needs to be in order for her to have the privilege of dating him. Ridiculous.
Okay, so who would I really like to meet? Someone who's engaged - not maritally, but in the events of the world. Able to carry on a conversation, skillfully. Someone - and this is very, very important - secure in themselves and secure in our relationship. You wouldn't think that needed mentioning, but .....
For the record: I am blunt, direct, plain-spoken; and, in some cases, like your back yard pool, my filter is clogged. I tend to say what's on my mind, I prefer not to spend a week texting; rather, I'd like our plans to be made by voice.
One more thing: if I contact you, it's likely because I'm interested. If you don't feel the same (it happens, especially when I'm not face-to-face with someone so my sparkling personality can't shine through), please just don't respond; or send me a quick, "Thanks, but I'm not interested." I scored slightly higher than a 600 on my SATs, I'm pretty smart where things like that are concerned; I think I can take a hint. Especially one as straightforward as, "Thanks, but I'm not interested."
Oh. And snarky. Did I mention I was snarky?.....
One last thing: I. Am. ABSOLUTELY NOT looking to go through an entire first date via text, email, or phone. A few, 'Hi/get to know you' questions to establish that I am who I say I am, and we make plans to meet face-to-face. You can't ascertain attraction through a text, nor does a spark arrive by email. While this might be a high-tech way to broaden the pool, attraction? spark? "love (or whatever chemical reaction causes people to want to be together) at first sight"? That happens in close space, and in real time. So do me a favor: if you're not interested in making that move forward, don't waste my time, please.
Do I come off as a jerk? Arrogant? Then I sincerely apologise, and I wish you well in your search.
But this is my profile, and my search. I know enough about myself, and human nature, to know how to raise my possibility of success. Again, I apologise if my methods disagree with you.
One more thing I need to add: I am an atheist. If you feel that means that I have no moral compass (as someone recently told me), or that we could never have kids because I don't share your values, so how could I possibly raise them correctly (I SWEAR I'm not making any of this up!) , then I would have to say we're done talking. I know who I am. I know which direction I run when faced with danger, and I'm not insecure about my ability to know right from wrong. If that doesn't comport with your values; for the last time, I'm sorry.
Conversation Starters (i.e. what you'd like to do on a first date...)
I do try to make every first date unique, but my favorite was walking under the Verrazano, with a cup of coffee and a nice girl.....