Here I am, in a nutshell.
I truly love life and always find the humor & positive in everything. I love laughing, being silly & sarcastic, playing around & enjoying life's little idiosyncrasies. I'm madly passionate about life & truly feel lucky to be here experiencing this beautiful thing called life. I am not religious, I don't willfully walk through life with philosophical & emotional crutches like that. Life is a choice between love & fear. You engage everything with love, or you turn and run from your fears.
I am a true gentleman (you'll see), I'm from Chicago and haven't lost those values, never will. I respect all people, especially those who have a sense of humility, those who do an honest day's work & put 100% effort into everything that they do—whether it's a relationship, work, fun or fitness.
I'm very much into eating clean & living a fit & healthy life. I love biking (mostly mountain biking), hiking, working out, and really anything which keeps me in shape. It's been a lifestyle for me my entire life.
No addictions (except maybe dark chocolate, having fun & learning/growing in life), no medications, no hang-ups, no ex-gf issues, no momma or poppa drama, no religion/mythical belief systems... I'm a pretty f**king even keeled guy all the way around.
I DO NOT play games with people's emotions and I don't tolerate it in return. I will give you 100% trust up-front and center, from that point, it's completely up to you what you do with it.—keep it or throw it away, it's your responsibility. I would like the same in return, however I understand that most people aren't capable of giving that immediately.
I believe that all relationships, be it friends or more, necessitate both people giving 100%-100%, not 50%-50%. If you're only giving 50%, you're half-in, and half-out. Along with that, an amazing relationship with two strong, confident, self-aware people ceases to be work. It's the WRONG relationships which become "work". When you truly love someone & can give more of yourself than you expect, you just do for that person, and they return the same to you, willingly.
When I meet someone I'm interested in, it's easy for me to see and I don't need to talk to or see anyone else. I say it, I mean it and I show it. I give that woman 100% because if I don't, I can't ever have the hope of seeing or receiving 100% from her.
Meeting someone to connect with should be simple, fun, engaging, & easy. You should just want to spend time together, learn about one-another, experience one-another and grow together. It shouldn't be so damn clinical & painful, as many people seem to make it. I'm looking for a woman who knows this. Life's too beautiful to muck it up with simple-minded nonsense. Too many people are looking for love or to be loved by someone. The question is, do you, first, truly love yourself? Only then are you able to share love and capable of allowing someone to share their love with you.
Bottom-line: I'm looking for a f-king amazing woman. I don't mean "socially perfect". I mean a REAL woman who isn't afraid to be herself, to speak her mind and to use that mind, often. A woman who loves herself because she's just a good f**king woman through and through, and she's ready to have the same kind of energy put into her as she wants to put into a guy.
If you're DONE with the games & trash, moreover if you've never engaged in them—which tend to come along with dating—and you're looking for a guy to grow, experience, live, love & laugh WITH, rather than to inflict yourselves upon one-another & hold each other back, throw me an oar, I'm hopping in your boat, or you hop in mine, it doesn't much matter.
Either way, it'll be a beautiful journey. :-)
Please Note: Fitness is important to me. You don't have to be a freak about it, but please be in at least decent shape, average or slender. I know, I know, it's so "surface", but it isn't, really, I want to fit comfortably with whom I am cuddling.
Also, finally… a little sarcasm+serious…
I do apologize that I won't (no, I can't) send you an emoticon as plenty of fish "gift". I know, I know… that's exactly what you've been waiting for all your life. A "great" guy to come along and rather than extend to you a truly heartfelt message, that he skimp out, write a "Post-it-Note's" worth of content in a haphazardly-worded email, coupled with the attachment of a digital "gift" that some random person designed which has absolutely zero connectivity with who you are as a woman.
After-all, nothing says, "I'm wildly intrigued by you", than that. Right? HAHA!
The FIRST thing I've learned about POF regarding the interaction process with people, if you're looking for a "good catch", you yourself must, first, be a "good catch". What's with the games & BS on here? The absolute over-selling of oneself only to be a total bullsh*t artist? Why even waste your time & energy, let alone others? Do you not have anything better to do with your time?
No harm, though, at least you find out before spending REAL time with them. I know there's some great people on here, and every experience in life is growth point.
What I would find beautiful, in "us"...
That CLICK! That magnetism two people share, when others are just drawn to the energy & bond between the two of us? Yes, THAT! The desire to explore one-another in every facet, daily. Communication in boundless capacities. The trust that we can put our very last breath in one-another's hands and we'd both be completely safe, always. Crazy, fun humor, silliness & playfulness with one-another that'll last 'til we're that old couple which we currently swoon over. Two strong & self-aware people letting go of the BS that society dictates and just being together, loving one-another & sharing with each other. It should be simple, however, it's not easy finding someone that self-connected.
Let's just go have a good time & LAUGH, laugh until our tummies hurt. Let go of the predisposed nonsense. Or let's do something active... and laugh. Let's go hiking, drink sangria, jog on the beach, beach volleyball, an art show, a concert... anything fun!
Humorous Reality Check Here I say the aforementioned because (as my friends and I found out and laugh about), well, there are quite a few women on here who shouldn't be claiming that they're ready to date one great guy. Why would you come on here if you wanted to hide, to communicate a little bit then cower back in a corner claiming that you've been burned by other guys? Why would you heave that onto another guy? It's simply bizarre.
A REAL QUICK ASIDE: What's with all the people on here who want pen-pals? This isn't Facebook, it's a friggin dating site. If you don't want to talk to/meet the person you're communicating with, GET THE "F" OFF HERE and go to Myspace with the little kids and dunderheads! HAHA! Really!
Here are some What The ????s which I've noticed on POF (yes, this is not only a bit sarcastic, but also a bit serious):
1: You're above the age of 12 and you still, seriously, refer to yourself as a diva, princess, mermaid, et al...
2: If you're duck-faced in your photos.
3: You gratuitously show your "goods" to everyone on POF but despise "his" shirtless or flexing photo (I don't have any of these, just making an observation).
4: If you pose like you belong in an issue of hustler, then complain about how guys disrespect you. I'm a photographer, yes, there's a monumental difference between divine class & absolute trash.
5: If you demand qualities from him which you can't, yourself, deliver.
6: You demand a guy be (insert number here) feet tall but loathe the guys who seek a petite woman.
7: You have "seemingly" inflatable lips and/or look like a porcelain doll 24/7 without any real features. It's CREEPY. Imagine a guy like this... ICK!
8: People who use 10 year-old photos when they were 50lbs lighter.
9: If you've vertically stretched your photos so that you look thinner. Like we actually believe that the sofa, your head are really THAT