First thing: You want to see men without hats & sunglasses, l want to see you without Phitoshop & loads of make-up. Fair is fair, right?
So upon that I'd say that the most beautiful quality about a woman, and any person, is when they're purely honest, from the ground up. Honest with not only other people, but also and most importantly, with yourself. That means being comfortable with and OWNING who you are, as you are, not as others expect you to be, that leads to everything else good.
I'm the type of guy who can handle almost anything without judgment or negativity, so long as you're up-front and honest with me, 100%. If you can lie about something little, you can definitely deceive regarding a big issue and it's game over from the get-go. Nothing good can be predicated upon lies.
So thank you for taking the time to read through my "verbofile". I'm a Chicagoan, so I don't beat around the bush or sugar-coat things. Hopefully you've experienced life enough to the point of not taking offense to a profile from someone you don't know, and you can read through the lines.
I place no expectations upon people other than that, however to give you a better insight as to who I am and let me explain the qualities which I find "beautiful" about people and most importantly a "match", when I come across it.
I'm not here to impress or convince you, I'm not a "salesman" merely telling you what you want to hear. I'm here to tell you who I am. If it resonates with you, great. Let's see if there's a click. We don't know one-another so let's be sincere. There's PLENTY of sarcasm coming up, be forewarned. :-)
What I'm ultimately looking for is that one woman who lives her life whereby her beauty is defined by her confidence and humility, self-awareness and constant desire to learn & grow, her empathy, compassion & love of people while not being a sucker or pushover.That her (and every woman's) true beauty is defined by WHO she is and isn't, not what she has, wears, drives or what amount of saline, silicone, collagen or biotoxin she has surgically implanted into her body. Meaning, if you wear more make-up than clowns do in order to feel "beautiful", chances are that you're hiding something really ugly inside of yourself.
So here I am, in a nutshell. I'm madly passionate about love and living an honest, positive, healthy and fulfilling life of constantly learning and growing. I don't just talk the talk, I walk it.
When it comes to love I'm a bit idealistic, a bit of a dreamer, and a total hopeless romantic. I still do believe in true love. I'd love to meet that one woman with whom I feel like a giddy school boy, eagerly anticipating his first kiss from his first crush, every single moment. Idealistic, right? It isn't. At least not when you've met someone who's at the same "place", completely sharing him/herself with another.
I'm a big, HUGE fan of the lost art of conversation. This means actually talking, not texting as the primary means of conversation. I don't like texting. I do understand it's a convenience at times and I'll make those exceptions, otherwise texts, to me, tend to go unrecognized and thus, unanswered. It's wildly unattractive when someone spends more time staring at their phone than they do engaging with the very real human beings surrounding them.
I'm big on old-school chivalry, but I don't do "traditional", more aptly defined as antiquated "gender roles". I really do value a strong woman with a great mind who uses it, and does it often. I'm not one to try to confine someone, I find true beauty in another person and thus the two of us flourishing. The goal being that we both grow, with one-another.
I have a HUUUUGE appreciation for people who are just damn good human beings from the core—those who respect and love themselves not because they're arrogant, rather because doing the right thing always precedes doing the popular thing. That's rare to find, however I know it's out there, I know I'm not the only one.
I live a healthy lifestyle. I exercise. I love the outdoors and you'll find me there often. I eat a healthy diet. It's not something I plan, I just do it because that's what I've done my entire life. As long as I can remember, I've lived a healthy lifestyle. Yes, I do enjoy my vices as well. I'm not one of those nutty types who's afraid of a little sugar, alcohol or if my sugar snap peas were grown 100% organically because no food is. So no worries there, and I don't preach to anyone regarding how they eat unless you're snorting Twinkie filling like it's blow, then yeah, I just may be a tad grossed out and want to leave. Ha!
I love to laugh & make others laugh and I can say that I truly do live my life with the energy, splendor and vigor of a child. Everything—every experience I have is an opportunity for growth. I still look at the World as though it's a beautiful place full of mystery, adventure and enlightenment, and I'm damn lucky to be here. However don't get me wrong, I'm no sucker. When it comes to the "bad" in life, I find the beauty which surrounds us and use the "bad" to easily find solutions & answers to make things better.
I suppose I sound a bit like a hippie. Maybe I am, maybe I'm not. Or, perhaps, just perhaps, I'm just a guy who gives 100% with every breath and still holds out hope... won't quit trying to make the World a better place for even one person if not more, every day.
I guess I'm looking for that one woman who hasn't been tarnished by the nonsense that is, oftentimes, the human experience. That woman who still thinks that life is wonderful and that there's a guy out there with whom she can share that beautiful experience. One who's experienced/intelligent enough to recognize the difference between a truly good guy and the chump who's just trying to get laid.
I'm that good guy. Let's talk and see if we click, or let's not and spend the rest of our lives chasing tails and wondering. I prefer the previous option to the latter. You?
Ciao and if you don't find that anything that I wrote resonates with you, I wish you the very best of luck.
Oh, and PLEASE, if you're one of those negative who's been bruised by every d-bag you've chosen to meet, don't project your issues onto me, don't write saying that I wrote too much or I'm too unrealistic. Please do the World a favor, flip the energy in that negativity to do something good, go feed & talk to a homeless person or a needy child. Go humble yourself a bit. (Yes, the aforementioned actually happens quite a bit.)
What I would find beautiful, in "us"...
That CLICK! That magnetism two people share, when others are just drawn to the energy & bond between the two of us? Yes, THAT! The desire to explore one-another in every facet, daily. Communication in boundless capacities. The trust that we can put our very last breath in one-another's hands and we'd both be completely safe, always. Crazy, fun humor, silliness & playfulness with one-another that'll last 'til we're that old couple which we currently swoon over. Two strong & self-aware people letting go of the BS that society dictates and just being together, loving one-another & sharing with each other. It should be simple, however, it's not easy finding someone that self-connected.
Let's just go have a good time & LAUGH, laugh until our tummies hurt. Let go of the predisposed nonsense. Or let's do something active... and laugh. Let's go hiking, drink sangria, jog on the beach, beach volleyball, an art show, a concert... anything fun!
Humorous Reality Check Here I say the aforementioned because (as my friends and I found out and laugh about), well, there are quite a few women on here who shouldn't be claiming that they're ready to date one great guy. Why would you come on here if you wanted to hide, to communicate a little bit then cower back in a corner claiming that you've been burned by other guys? Why would you heave that onto another guy? It's simply bizarre.
A REAL QUICK ASIDE: What's with all the people on here who want pen-pals? This isn't Facebook, it's a dating site. If you don't want to talk to/meet the person you're communicating with, GET OFF PoF and go to Myspace! ;-)
Here are some What The FKs which I've noticed on POF (yes, this is not only a bit sarcastic, but also a bit serious):
1: You're above the age of 12 and you still, seriously, refer to yourself as a diva, princess, mermaid, et al...
2: If you're duck-faced in your photos.
3: You gratuitously show your "goods" to everyone on POF but despise "his" shirtless or flexing photo (I don't have any of these, just making an observation).
4: If you pose like you belong in an issue of hustler, then complain about how guys disrespect you. I'm a photographer, yes, there's a monumental difference between divine class & absolute trash.
5: If you demand qualities from him which you can't, yourself, deliver.
6: You demand a guy be (insert number here) feet tall but loathe the guys who seek a petite woman.
7: You have "seemingly" inflatable lips and/or look like a porcelain doll 24/7 without any real features. It's CREEPY. Imagine a guy like this... ICK!
8: People who use 10 year-old photos when they were 50lbs lighter.
9: If you've vertically stretched your photos so that you look thinner. Like we actually believe that the sofa, your head are really THAT tall.