OK, first things first:
Too many people are looking for love or to be loved by someone. The question is, do you truly love yourself, first? Because then, and only then are you able to share love and capable of allowing someone to share their love with you.
1: Come to the table knowing who "you" are. If you don't even have yourself to bring, you have nothing to offer.
2: We've all had shyte happen in life. We've all met some serious douche-bags, flakes, fakes & liars.We're bigger than that, right? Right?
You'll see very quickly that I say it like it is. HA! :-)
Simply put, this is how my life works:
Love with every fiber of my being.
Learn through the "eyes" & with the energy, splendor & vigor of an innocent, intuitive child.
Live every experience with the all-encompassing & intense passion, as though it's the only chance I get,
and from that, ultimately, Grow.
Yes, life is really that simple. Most people choose to make it difficult, it's merely a choice. Even, and especially, when times are rough, the answers are simple & we choose our path.
Meeting someone to connect with should, in-turn, be simple, fun, engaging, & easy. You should just want to spend time together, learn about one-another and grow together. It shouldn't be so damn clinical & painful, as many people seem to make it.
So here's my story in a nutshell. I am the real deal, I am looking for the real deal. Let's be honest, it's easy to meet people to sleep around with, but that's not what I want, never have, never will. Nor should you want that, if you do, you're not my cup of tea. Sex is AMAZING, however it's amazing when it's shared with someone amazing.
Look, I'm a photographer, I could very well date within my "industry". But I don't and I won't. I don't sh@t in my own back yard and I respect myself, my morals and my reputation way too much to compromise any of them, EVER!
So here's the skinny, if you're that woman who truly KNOWS yourself, LOVES yourself, and RESPECTS who you are, you live passionately, honestly, with love and kindness, can have a blast & laugh through anything in life, and you've let go of the pre-conceived societal BS about relationships and dating—you're ready for a REAL connection... if you can BE YOU, not what society has determined you should be, then I'd love to talk to you.
I'm in no rush, if she comes along, then great I'm all in, if not, then so be it. Either way, I'm happy and love life.
I you really need to know more:
As I said, I'm a happy, That's not changing, not for anyone. I LOVE laughing, screwing around and enjoying life, finding the beauty all around me. I don't let morons or issue-laden people drag me down. Nope, not this guy.
I LOVE what I do for a living and I'm damn good at them both. Photography is most definitely my passion.
I have a diverse sense of humor, It ranges from intelligent to goofy as hell, sarcastic but not mean, and oftentimes relatively twisted. You've got to be quick-witted to keep up.
I'm healthy and fit: body, mind and spirit. I eat mostly clean/organic foods, and I do this while enjoying all of my guilty pleasures. I do embrace my vices.
I'm open and honest, I don't hide my thoughts or emotions, ever. What, you couldn't tell already? HA!
When I'm interested in a woman, I say it and I meant it, and I show it, 100%.
Bottom-line, I believe that one must truly love, honor and respect oneself before one can ever love, honor & respect another and most importantly, before one can ever allow oneself to be loved honored and respected.
While quotes do not encapsulate the essence of who I am, the following is GREAT descriptor of me and how I do & always have lived my life:
"I am nobody. I don't belong to any nation, I don't belong to any religion, I don't belong to any political party. I am simply an individual, the way existence created me. I have kept myself absolutely uninfluenced by any idiotic ideology - religious, political, social, financial. And the miracle is that because I am not burdened with all these glasses on my eyes, and curtains before me, I can see clearly." —OSHO
What I would find beautiful, in "us"...
That CLICK! You know that energy two people share, when others are just drawn to the energy & bond between the two of us? Yes, THAT! The desire to explore one-another in every facet, daily. Communication in boundless capacities. The trust that we can put our very last breath in one-another's hands and we'd both be completely safe, always. Crazy, fun humor, silliness & playfulness with one-another that'll last 'til we're that old couple which we currently swoon over. Two strong & self-aware people letting go of the BS society dictates and just being together, loving one-another & sharing with each other. It should be simple, however, it's not easy finding someone that self-connected.
Let's just go have a good time & LAUGH, laugh until our tummies hurt. Let go of the predisposed nonsense. Or let's do something active... and laugh. Let's go hiking, drink sangria, jog on the beach, beach volleyball, an art show, a concert... anything fun!
Humorous Reality Check Here I say the aforementioned because (as my friends and I found out and laugh about), well, there are a LOT of women on here who shouldn't be claiming that they're ready to date one great guy. Why would you come on here if you wanted to hide, to communicate a little bit then cower back in a corner claiming that you've been burned by other guys? Why would you put that onto another guy? It's just weird, it's NOT what a real woman does and in effect, it's actually playing games with guys, it's hypocrisy.
A REAL QUICK ASIDE: What's with all the people on here who want pen-pals? This isn't Facebook, it's a friggin dating site. If you don't want to talk to/meet the person you're communicating with, GET THE F--K OFF HERE and go to Myspace with the little kids and dunderheads! HAHA! Really!
And here are some What The F--K's:
1: You're above the age of 12 and you still, seriously, refer to yourself as a diva, princess, mermaid, et al...
2: If you're duck faced in your photos.
3: You show your goods to everyone on POF but despise "his" shirtless or sunglasses photo (I don't have any of these, just making an observation).
4: If you demand qualities from him which you can't, yourself, deliver.
Please trust me on this, the guys who let you slide on these, only want to get you in bed for X amount of time then move onto their next "score".