Thank you for taking the time to read through my brash yet brutally honest profile. I'm a Chicagoan, so I don't beat around the bush or sugar-coat things. Hopefully you've experienced life enough to the point of not taking offense if I come off brash, at points.
Let me start by saying that I'm not here to impress you or convince you of anything, I'm not a salesman, so if that's what you're looking for, good luck! If you like what I wrote and I you, then great, let's see if there's a click between us. We both owe one-another nothing but the mutual respect that we both deserve from one-another.
What I'm ultimately looking for is that one woman who realizes and lives a life whereby her beauty is defined by her confidence and humility, self-awareness and constant desire to learn & grow, her empathy, compassion & love of people while not being a sucker for every con man on the street.That her (and every woman's) true beauty is defined by WHO she is and isn't, not what she has, wears, drives or what amount of saline, silicone, collagen or biotoxin she has surgically implanted into her body.
Too "heavy" of a comment for PoF some have told me. Yeah the truth is, indeed, a hard pill to swallow at times for many people.
So here I am, in a nutshell. I'm madly passionate about life, love and living an honest, positive, healthy and fulfilling life of constantly learning and growing. Sounds so cliché, perhaps? Oh, but it isn't, while some of us preach it then shat upon it with every action, I just live it. The best part is that it truly does give me a unique perspective on life—engage me in a sociopolitical discussion and you'll quickly see.
When it comes to love I'm a bit idealistic, a bit of a dreamer, a total hopeless romantic. I still do believe in true love. I'd love to meet that one woman who makes me feel like a giddy school boy anticipating his first kiss from his first crush, every single moment. Idealistic sounding? It isn't. At least not when you meet someone who is at the same place of comfort completely sharing him/herself with another.
I'm a big, HUGE fan of the lost art of conversation. This means actually talking to someone and being fully engaged in the conversation and thus, them, rather than continually texting. I don't like texting at all. I do understand it's a convenience at times and I'll make those exceptions, otherwise texts to me tend to go unrecognized and thus, unanswered. I have to say that it's wildly unattractive when someone spends more time staring at their phone than they do engaging themselves with the very real human beings surrounding them.
Side note: As for selfie sticks, the only purpose those should serve is to beat those who use them, into submission, to not use them any more. Yeah, I don't REALLY mean that, however the sick and twisted side of my humor would definitely laugh at a comedy skit were one to illustrate that scene.
I'm big on old-school chivalry, but I don't do traditional, more aptly defined as antiquated "gender roles". I really do value a strong woman with a great mind who uses it, and does it often. I'm not one to try to confine someone, I find true beauty in another person flourishing, and allowing me to flourish as well. The goal being that we both grow, with one-another.
I have a huge appreciation for people who are just damn good human beings, those who respect and love themselves not because they're arrogant, rather because doing the right thing always precedes doing the popular thing. That's rare to find, however I know it's out there because I'm that way, I can't possibly be the only one left, can I?
I live a healthy lifestyle. I exercise. I love the outdoors and you'll find me there 99% of the time. I eat a healthy diet. It's not something I plan, I just do it because that's what I've done my entire life. As long as I can remember, I've lived a healthy lifestyle. It's as easy as walking, to me. Yes, I do enjoy my vices as well. I'm not one of those nutty types who is afraid of a little sugar, alcohol or if my sugar snap peas were grown 100% organically because no food is. So no worries there, and I don't preach to anyone regarding how they eat unless you're snorting Twinkie filling, then yeah, I just may be a tad grossed out and want to leave. Ha!
I love to laugh & make others laugh and I can say that I truly do live my life with the energy, splendor and vigor of a child. Everything, every experience I have is an opportunity for growth, to me. I still look at the World as though it's a beautiful place full of mystery, adventure and enlightenment, and I'm damn lucky to be here. But don't get me wrong, I'm no sucker, I'm well aware and very well-versed with regard to the ills of the World and the many crappy people in it. But even in those, I find the beauty which surrounds us and use the bad to find solutions & answers to make things better.
I suppose I sound a bit like a hippie. Perhaps I am, perhaps I'm not. Or, perhaps, just perhaps, I'm just a guy who still holds out hope and won't quit trying to make the World a better place for even one person if not more, until I can no longer breathe.
I guess I'm looking for that one woman who hasn't been tainted by the nonsense that is, oftentimes, the human experience. That woman who still thinks that life is wonderful and that there's a guy out there with whom she can share that experience.
I'm that guy. Let's talk and see if we click, or let's not and spend the rest of our lives chasing tails and wondering. I prefer the previous option to the latter. You?
Ciao and if you don't find that anything that I wrote resonates with you, I wish you the very best of luck.
Oh, and PLEASE, if you're one of those negative who's been tainted by every d-bag you've chosen to meet, don't project your issues onto me and blame me—don't write to me saying that I wrote too much or I'm too unrealistic. Please do the World a favor, flip the energy in that negativity to do something good, go feed & talk to a homeless person or a needy child. Go humble yourself a bit.
What I would find beautiful, in "us"...
That CLICK! That magnetism two people share, when others are just drawn to the energy & bond between the two of us? Yes, THAT! The desire to explore one-another in every facet, daily. Communication in boundless capacities. The trust that we can put our very last breath in one-another's hands and we'd both be completely safe, always. Crazy, fun humor, silliness & playfulness with one-another that'll last 'til we're that old couple which we currently swoon over. Two strong & self-aware people letting go of the BS that society dictates and just being together, loving one-another & sharing with each other. It should be simple, however, it's not easy finding someone that self-connected.
Let's just go have a good time & LAUGH, laugh until our tummies hurt. Let go of the predisposed nonsense. Or let's do something active... and laugh. Let's go hiking, drink sangria, jog on the beach, beach volleyball, an art show, a concert... anything fun!
Humorous Reality Check Here I say the aforementioned because (as my friends and I found out and laugh about), well, there are quite a few women on here who shouldn't be claiming that they're ready to date one great guy. Why would you come on here if you wanted to hide, to communicate a little bit then cower back in a corner claiming that you've been burned by other guys? Why would you heave that onto another guy? It's simply bizarre.
A REAL QUICK ASIDE: What's with all the people on here who want pen-pals? This isn't Facebook, it's a friggin dating site. If you don't want to talk to/meet the person you're communicating with, GET THE "F" OFF HERE and go to Myspace with the little kids and dunderheads! HAHA! Really!
Here are some What The ????s which I've noticed on POF (yes, this is not only a bit sarcastic, but also a bit serious):
1: You're above the age of 12 and you still, seriously, refer to yourself as a diva, princess, mermaid, et al...
2: If you're duck-faced in your photos.
3: You gratuitously show your "goods" to everyone on POF but despise "his" shirtless or flexing photo (I don't have any of these, just making an observation).
4: If you pose like you belong in an issue of hustler, then complain about how guys disrespect you. I'm a photographer, yes, there's a monumental difference between divine class & absolute trash.
5: If you demand qualities from him which you can't, yourself, deliver.
6: You demand a guy be (insert number here) feet tall but loathe the guys who seek a petite woman.
7: You have "seemingly" inflatable lips and/or look like a porcelain doll 24/7 without any real features. It's CREEPY. Imagine a guy like this... ICK!
8: People who use 10 year-old photos when they were 50lbs lighter.
9: If you've vertically stretched your photos so that you look thinner. Like we actually believe that the sofa, your head are really THAT