Alright, I’ve been on and off here for a bit now, so I have a generally solid idea of how it works.
I’m supposed to profusely bark to you how sensitive I am while displaying duck faced bathroom selfies, holding my puppy, with my gangsta flat-billed MMA hat, inked to the gills, with that tough guy look—which my face never makes at any other time in my life—all to prove that I’m not only Mr. Sensitive himself, but also the supreme badass in my own convoluted world.
Sorry, I can’t do that. Not because I physically can’t, rather because I’m not an imbecile and I have too much self-respect to act like a douchebag, and thus, I exemplify my respect for you, even though I don't know you.
I’m also supposed to send you countless GIF images of flowers & wine bottles to prove to you that I’m someone who cares enough to send the very least, in hopes to make you smile & boost your electronic ego. Alas, I also can’t do that, for the same reasons mentioned above and add to that, if that’s what you’re looking for, you’re just not my “type”, and I don’t even have a “type”, however I’m willing to create one and add only THAT as the criteria. Plus, to be blunt, I’d rather show you that I respect you in person, because you deserve it, not because you made me want to con you into bed with meaningless bullsh@t.
You also have the expectation of seeing the “real” us in our profiles, but you come to us caked in make-up, photoshopped photos, showing your goods to everyone who happens to click by. Question: Is that the “real” you, that you’re showing us?
OK, OK, OK… so you get that I’m a bit sarcastic and like to point out the sheer ridiculousness of many of the people (both genders) on this site. Rest assured, you won’t be the recipient any of that stereotypical nonsense from me, if that’s what you’re looking for, that being a real, no BS person who says it like it is and invests himself 100% into everything that he does, including you, loves to laugh & takes care of himself, then we’re off to a really good start.
I’m here, being real, with the expectation of real in return. I ask for, from people, nothing more than I can give to them, but in return at least that which I can give, to anyone in life.
Maybe that’s asking too much for PoF? I’m on the positive side of humanity here and I believe that even if I don’t hear from 500 people, I don’t care, because I’m not looking to be a name & number collector, I want only one name & number, that one amazing woman with whom I click and gel so effortlessly, that I can’t wait to be around her, to learn about her, to experience, to live, laugh, love, learn and grow—with her and she with me, always. I'm not searching for someone, I'm in the perfect place in my life, have been for years and years, and when that right person happens along, I'm all in, 1000%. No work necessary, it'll just pop, the way it should.
To me, that’s what sharing oneself and ultimately, love are. It’s THAT simple. We don’t have to make it complex & icky, it’s just that most people choose to. I choose not to, never have, never will.
Having said that, if it’s not obvious by now, I respect myself. This means I take good care of myself—mentally, physically & energetically. I’m not a slacker, though I can most definitely enjoy my “downtime” moments. Cuddling, there’s one I could do all damn day and not feel one ounce of guilt over having done nothing else.
I don’t hold any dogmatic beliefs, I’m not religious, I’m not spiritual, just a person who’s here. I just “am”, in other words. Here to make sure that the next person after me has & enjoys the same, if not better, things that I was lucky enough to enjoy. I try not to judge others, but we all have to when comes tome to determining whether or not allowing someone into our lives is a good or bad thing. I stand for equal rights, across the board (ie: gays, women, etc…) I don’t oppose those who use cannabis, or drink, etc… I applaud freedom of speech (not necessarily the message behind it), even when it offends the hell out of me.
I tend to just look at the World through the eyes of a child, learn & grow from everything I experience and find my humility somewhere in-between the recognition of the need to do better or to realize when some things are just going to be how they are and we need to step back.
It’s a crazy enough World out there, I don’t need to go adding to it. And dating? Well, one could easily apply straight jackets and it would be a certified nuthouse.
Let’s keep it simple, let’s be honest. Let’s be forthright. Let’s laugh, let’s cry, let’s play in the mud, let’s swim in the ocean, let’s hike, let’s bike, let’s get filthy and go to a nice restaurant for dinner. Let’s be the ones who stand out, not because we’re trying, rather because that’s just who we are and nobody else matters to who we are as one.
Let’s have fun, as humans. I don’t need or want you to try to impress me and I certainly hope that you don’t feel that I need to impress you. Just being who we are should be impressive enough, and if it isn’t, then we’ll constantly find ourselves coming back here to “sell ourselves” to the next “buyer”.
I’m just not a salesman, it’s not in me.
I can’t really express in a PoF profile, to the depths which I would like, everything I’m trying to say, it keeps limiting how much I can write, but if you catch my drift, we’re light years beyond most people on this site, already.
If you’re intrigued, by all means, write to me for I may not see your profile. No worries, I’m not big on shallow societally determined gender roles either, were I, I would ’t be on a site like this. It’s OK for you to say hello, first, though I would like to maintain that gentlemanly nature and if we actually talk, I’ll make the first call.
Sound good? :-)
Peace and love to all, that’s the hope and goal.
What I would find beautiful, in "us"...
That CLICK! That magnetism two people share, when others are just drawn to the energy & bond between the two of us? Yes, THAT! The desire to explore one-another in every facet, daily. Communication in boundless capacities. The trust that we can put our very last breath in one-another's hands and we'd both be completely safe, always. Crazy, fun humor, silliness & playfulness with one-another that'll last 'til we're that old couple which we currently swoon over. Two strong & self-aware people letting go of the BS that society dictates and just being together, loving one-another & sharing with each other. It should be simple, however, it's not easy finding someone that self-connected.
Let's just go have a good time & LAUGH, laugh until our tummies hurt. Let go of the predisposed nonsense. Or let's do something active... and laugh. Let's go hiking, drink sangria, jog on the beach, beach volleyball, an art show, a concert... anything fun!
Humorous Reality Check Here I say the aforementioned because (as my friends and I found out and laugh about), well, there are quite a few women on here who shouldn't be claiming that they're ready to date one great guy. Why would you come on here if you wanted to hide, to communicate a little bit then cower back in a corner claiming that you've been burned by other guys? Why would you heave that onto another guy? It's simply bizarre.
A REAL QUICK ASIDE: What's with all the people on here who want pen-pals? This isn't Facebook, it's a friggin dating site. If you don't want to talk to/meet the person you're communicating with, GET THE "F" OFF HERE and go to Myspace with the little kids and dunderheads! HAHA! Really!
Here are some What The ????s which I've noticed on POF (yes, this is not only a bit sarcastic, but also a bit serious):
1: You're above the age of 12 and you still, seriously, refer to yourself as a diva, princess, mermaid, et al...
2: If you're duck-faced in your photos.
3: You gratuitously show your "goods" to everyone on POF but despise "his" shirtless or flexing photo (I don't have any of these, just making an observation).
4: If you pose like you belong in an issue of hustler, then complain about how guys disrespect you. I'm a photographer, yes, there's a monumental difference between divine class & absolute trash.
5: If you demand qualities from him which you can't, yourself, deliver.
6: You demand a guy be (insert number here) feet tall but loathe the guys who seek a petite woman.
7: You have "seemingly" inflatable lips and/or look like a porcelain doll 24/7 without any real features. It's CREEPY. Imagine a guy like this... ICK!
8: People who use 10 year-old photos when they were 50lbs lighter.
9: If you've vertically stretched your photos so that you look thinner. Like we actually believe that the sofa, your head are really THAT