I'm a Chicagoan, born and raised, I still have Midwestern values which I'll never lose. Even the worst person or situation won't break or jade me.
I believe in true love & hopeless romance, chivalry and respect for a woman, dignity and honor, without all the antiquated stereotypical gender role expectations. I melt in the presence of a strong & self-aware woman who knows she can run her own show without needing a guy, rather she's open and accepting to share her life with one. Strength & humility, is what I'm getting at. I don't fall often, but when I do it's with every fiber of my being and I give that woman everything which makes me who I am, I put my very life in her hands and trust that she'll always have my back, as I'll always have hers.
I'm honest, forthright, noble and honorable. I always tend to do what's right over what's popular. I won't walk amongst immoral people in my personal life or work life in order to benefit, I just can't do it, and in that, my conscience is clean.
I can say that I truly do live my life with the energy, splendor and vigor of a child. Everything—every experience I have is an opportunity for growth. I still look at the World as though it's a beautiful place full of mystery, adventure and enlightenment, and I'm damn lucky that Stars had to die for me to be here. However don't get me wrong, I'm no sucker. When it comes to the "bad" people or things in life. I find the beauty which surrounds us and use the "bad" to easily find solutions & answers to make things better. The "bad", as I said, is opportunity for growth & expansion.
I love life deeply & passionately. I truly do try to "live, love, learn laugh & grow" every single day of my life—I'm madly passionate in that respect. I give 100% of myself to everything that I do, whether it's work, family, friends, personal and yes, even you.
I have a HUUUUGE appreciation for people who are just damn good human beings from the core.
I'm not big on religion, you're either good or you're not. If you do it for the "grand prize" when you die, you're not truly a good person. If you're good because maximizing happiness for all is your goal, then you're truly a good person. When you do bad things, feel bad, then right your wrongs. It's that simple.
I live a healthy lifestyle. I exercise. I love the outdoors and you'll find me there often. I eat a healthy diet. It's not something I plan, I just do it because that's what I've done my entire life. Yes, I do enjoy my vices as well. I'm not one of those nutty types who's afraid of a little sugar, alcohol or if my sugar snap peas were grown 100% organically because no food is.
I LOVE to laugh & make others laugh. I love to be silly, goofy and joke about at all the "nuance" that life throws in front of us, the perceived insanity of it all, the crazy people, and my sense of humor spans every range. I use that, aptly. Life is one big petri dish of a science experiment, pay attention, soak it in and laugh about it.
I'm a big fan of the lost art of conversation. This means actually talking, not texting as the primary means of conversation. I don't like texting. I do understand it's convenient at times and I'll make those exceptions, otherwise texts, to me, tend to go unrecognized and thus, unanswered. It's wildly unattractive when someone spends more time staring at their phone than they do engaging with the very real human beings surrounding them.
What I'm ultimately looking for is that one woman who loves & lives her life whereby her beauty is defined by her confidence and humility, self-awareness and constant desire to learn & grow, her empathy, compassion & love of people while not being a sucker or pushover. That her (and every woman's) true beauty is defined by WHO she is and isn't, not what she has, wears, drives or what amount of saline, silicone, collagen or biotoxin she has surgically implanted into her body.
I suppose, in a nutshell, the easiest way to describe what I'm looking for in a woman would be: I'm looking for that woman who has lived enough of life that she's immediately aware of the difference between guy who's treating her with respect & honor because he's just a good guy and that d-bag who's being nice to get her into bed. Is this too much to ask for from women on PoF? I would certainly hope not.
I suppose I sound a bit like a hippie. Maybe I am, maybe I'm not. Or perhaps, just perhaps, I'm just a guy who gives 100% with every breath and still holds out hope... won't quit trying to make the World a better place for even one person if not more, every day.
Thank you for taking the time to read all of this. You did read it all, right? ;-)
What I would find beautiful, in "us"...
That CLICK! That magnetism two people share, when others are just drawn to the energy & bond between the two of us? Yes, THAT! The desire to explore one-another in every facet, daily. Communication in boundless capacities. The trust that we can put our very last breath in one-another's hands and we'd both be completely safe, always. Crazy, fun humor, silliness & playfulness with one-another that'll last 'til we're that old couple which we currently swoon over. Two strong & self-aware people letting go of the BS that society dictates and just being together, loving one-another & sharing with each other. It should be simple, however, it's not easy finding someone that self-connected.
Let's just go have a good time & LAUGH, laugh until our tummies hurt. Let go of the predisposed nonsense. Or let's do something active... and laugh. Let's go hiking, drink sangria, jog on the beach, beach volleyball, an art show, a concert... anything fun!
Humorous Reality Check Here I say the aforementioned because (as my friends and I found out and laugh about), well, there are quite a few women on here who shouldn't be claiming that they're ready to date one great guy. Why would you come on here if you wanted to hide, to communicate a little bit then cower back in a corner claiming that you've been burned by other guys? Why would you heave that onto another guy? It's simply bizarre.