I take this to mean the first time we meet. Let's keep it simple! I've read some of the arguments, both in profiles and on the POF Forum, about meeting too soon or waiting too long. Some are pushy. Some are way too slow, liking a lot of communications by text or by phone, first. I lean to the quicker side. I also realize it'll happen when both parties agree to make it happen.
We get a pretty good idea, I think, from profiles and the first couple messages whether there might be any interest on both our parts. I see the profiles that begin, "I don't know about this online thing. I don't like describing myself. I'm not sure what to say (i.e.: I'm not sure how to present myself)." So, if there's any appeal at all, let's talk face-to-face, like the old days. And, doing that, if you figure out quickly there's nothing here for you, just say so! No hard feelings! I'll do the same for you. Whatever comes of it, I'll be glad to have made your acquaintance. And, if we happen to bump into each other after, we can, at least, say hi to one another. Doesn't that sound better than all the preliminary dissertations and essays on philosophy and metaphysics? Yes, I've been asked to write on metaphysics and my life's guiding philosophies. I won't do that here. We can discuss those over coffee or wine, too, if we decide we want to stick around past the first cup.
Especially, you who list among your “Interests” good conversation, does that sound terribly unreasonable? Of course, if there's going to be a first "meet and greet," it will take as long to arrange as the person who wants to take the longest takes.