I am who I am, no more, no less. You are who you are, no more, no less. We will meet as we are, no more, no less. To do less would be disrespectful and disingenuous. If we like who we are together, perhaps we can become more. Such is the dance and the wonderful mystery of life.
First dates should be different for each individual encountered. To plan ahead before meeting the other soul would be to spoil the spontaneity of the moment. Perhaps meet for coffee or tea and see where things lead...be it a game of pool or bowling. Dancing or karaoke... Who knows? That's the fun of meeting! :o)