If it is right - it should be easy.
Real relationships grow without someone forcing them to grow through artificial intimacy.
*****If you are seeking something short-term and casual or want babies of your own in the future, I am not for you.*****
I can get along with anyone; I am a chameleon.
I have been told that i am "normal", genuine, transparent, kind and goofy.
Many men are not their true selves when they are dating - they are mirages (ie:Tiger Woods, Alec Baldwin)
I am an excellent judge of character, and can quickly determine if somebody is being honest, or if he is simply telling me what I want to hear. When someone is trying to seek my approval and seems too agreeable, that is a red flag for me. A partner should have definite ideas that clash with my own. If all of his tastes are mine, I am being conned.
I want to take time to get to know somebody, with no immediate physical payoff. That realization weeds out SO many mirage men, and leaves those who are persistent as potentially good partners. When a guy is in a rush to "close the deal", much like a pushy real estate agent, I run the other way...quickly.
If you are the right one, there isn't much you have to do.
Just be yourself.
The ultimate goal of healthy dating is to find someone who accepts your naked self.
If I am dating you, then I want to meet and hang out with your close friends and family. Again, mirage men often resist this and any reluctance will be considered a red flag.
Do we have a core of shared interests? Are we friends who enjoy each other's company? Do we actually share enough common values and goals to survive the long haul of life together? Will we want to spend our precious free time together once the sex gets old?
All of these questions are soooooo important!
To quote E.V Lucas -
"The art of life is to show your hand.
There is no diplomacy like candid.
You may lose by it now and then,
but it will be a loss well gained if you do.
Nothing is so boring as having to
keep up deception."
I have 10 free nights to myself per month, including 4 days/nights (one weeknight per week and every second weekend), so ideally if our schedules are somewhat in sync and there is not a significant distance between us, I would love to spend that time getting to know someone with the hopes that it will blossom into something serious.
A long walk at the beach.
Cuddling triggers the same neurological reaction as taking painkillers.
Holding hands with someone you love can alleviate physical pain as well as stress and fear.
Falling in love has similar neurological effects as a cocaine high.
Men who kiss their wives in the morning are said to live five years longer than men who don’t.