I have my act together, and I value people who are genuine and sincere as much I value personal responsibility. In the big picture I think these things are almost prerequisites for having more fun and less drama. I make my own path rather than assume that what works for the masses is the way to go. I have my own career, vehicle, home, and pet - financial and ethical responsibility, and cultivating the autonomy it makes possible. Some have told me they enjoy a sense of peace and safety hanging with me. If you're a fellow sapiophile, we'll probably get along great whether as friends or otherwise. I've unexpectedly heard that I'm a good kisser, but I really just do what seems right/fun/not wrong, live in the moment and all that jazz.
I realize everyone has his or her own situation and that different people are looking for different things. In order to save your time as well as mine, I am not looking for hook-ups, strictly monogamous relationships, or a marriage. I can probably be friends with anyone, and in many cases I enjoy it. I'm capable of serious monogamy and have done so without ever cheating, because I know how to make an agreement and abide by it. But I am also of the mind that enjoying something about one person doesn't have to detract from enjoying something about another person as well. I think jealousy comes from fear of scarcity and loss, and I think it makes more sense to live and to feel freely - what if there wasn't a loss to fear, for example. I'm willing to have civil conversation about my ideas just for the sake of discussion or friendship, in fact that's enjoyable whether we are interested in one another or not.
Music wise I've come to appreciate a lot of different things, but I tend to stick around punk/psychobilly, singers and lyricists in the veins of Leonard Cohen, Tom Waits, Nick Cave, or Mike Patton, certain kinds of metal, industrial, certain hip-hop, lots of things except for the obnoxiously poppy/blingy.
Taking the opportunity to find out a little more about each other and see if we hit it off. Maybe that's at a bar, or restaurant, or cafe, or park, etc. A safe setting where it's easy to talk privately, freely, comfortably, and still have an enjoyable, fun time.